tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1784940136029401162.post1117884535319637783..comments2023-05-06T05:23:38.877-04:00Comments on A tale of Bi and Bi: Doomed to failBiLikesSciFihttp://www.blogger.com/profile/09811350778828314222noreply@blogger.comBlogger4125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1784940136029401162.post-47130754715506054062012-09-11T03:29:35.662-04:002012-09-11T03:29:35.662-04:00I know how difficult it is to watch a close friend...I know how difficult it is to watch a close friend - you should pardon the expression - spiral out. The fact is, like an addict she is probably powerless to make changes until she hits bottom. Unfortunately, as harmful as this relationship seems to be, I can't imagine what else must occur for her to see that she is on a sinking ship. <br /><br />I was in a similar relationship when I was much younger - late teens - and stupider. I knew I needed to walk away, but I desperately wanted to "save" or "fix" the young woman who was so obviously damaged. Back then I was pretty idealistic and, as I said, stupid. I wanted to be the bigger person, treat her better than she treated me. But it became clear before long that I had to bail before the relationship consumed me.<br /><br />It IS emotional abuse. The insidious thing about emotional abuse is that it doesn't leave the kind of scars that can be photographed and used to justify a restraining order. I hate to say it, but you've done all you can. I'm not going to tell you to use some tough love and no longer be there for her; the fact is that if she ever wises up and leaves the guy, she'll need support. Whether you have the will to stick around that long is up to you.<br /><br />-Jack<br />Jack and Jillhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00621526029674020006noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1784940136029401162.post-18263317850041778832012-09-11T01:33:02.388-04:002012-09-11T01:33:02.388-04:00Sometimes waiting is the hardest part.
You told h...Sometimes waiting is the hardest part.<br /><br />You told her what to do to get out of a bad situation. I wish those to whom I had confided my fears and desperate feelings had given me similar advice. Maybe I could have avoided some of my mess. Nevertheless, their support helped bring me through when I went about trying to fix me. I found my true family in those months.<br /><br />What matters no is that you'll be there for her. You already are.<br /><br />Stay SINful<br />Mr. APAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1784940136029401162.post-91227524438702945182012-09-10T09:02:55.385-04:002012-09-10T09:02:55.385-04:00BEen there , done that, sat by until he pushed her...BEen there , done that, sat by until he pushed her into a nervous breakdown. He cheated, gave her an STD , she went through hell, I had to come to a place where I said I love you but I cannot keep fixing you when you allow him to do this to you. She finally got brave enough to send him packing, but not before she flipped shit on him..Twisted Angelhttp://twistedangeldesires.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1784940136029401162.post-61775500141073513002012-09-10T08:01:49.223-04:002012-09-10T08:01:49.223-04:00All in all, it sounds like they are both playing o...All in all, it sounds like they are both playing out with each other. She seems to be more aggressive in this relationship; he more passive.<br /><br />I was involved with someone like her once. I was smart enough to leave.<br /><br />You are in a rough place.<br /><br />~shoes~Red Shoeshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01919277206516592912noreply@blogger.com