TMI Tuesday: Pleasure and Pain

Note: This week's questions were written and submitted by me!

1. Which do you enjoy more in bed, pain or pleasure?

My answer: I enjoy pleasure, both giving and receiving. I actually like some pain in/on/around my pussy more than anywhere else. I also love to bite and spank hard.

2. Do you like being tickled during sex? Where?
My answer: Kind of. Having my feet tickled with a dick in me is... incredible. It's like the sensation of the tickle goes straight to my cunt. It drives me wild in an almost too much to handle kind of way. I don't like being tickled anywhere else during sex.

3. Have you ever used feathers during sex?
My answer: No, I haven't. They don't provide enough sensation for me. I've often heard the phrase "Erotic is using a feather, kinky uses the whole chicken." Well, I didn't care for feathers and the first thought I had about this saying was that the chicken was actually a rubber chicken. And yes, I can think of ways to use that in sex. Just like I could when I was 14 and first heard that saying.

4. Do you like to be blindfolded during sex? Why?
My answer: YES. We should really do this more often, really. I love not knowing what's going to happen next, being left to wonder. I'm always so analytical I like to anticipate what's coming next and wait for it. With a blindfold I'm just left in the moment.

5. Have you ever used cold or heat as part of your sex play? What provided the cold or heat?
I haven't used heat yet, although perhaps one day I'll try hot wax. We have used ice cubes on each other before (like me using them on him here and him returning the favor here).

6. Do you enjoy being spanked, giving spankings, or both?
My answer: I have this love/hate relationship with being spanked. I hate it and yet I want more of it. I want to be spanked to the point of loud protestations and tears, but I'm terrified of it. One day he's just gonna have to tie me down and do it to me.

As for giving, well, I have NO problems there and love to push his limits.

7. Do you have a safeword? Have you ever used it?
We don't have a set safe word. If we enter a play session where we think it may be necessary, we'll discuss it and decide on one before the play. So far neither of us has had to use it.

Bonus: Tell us in 3-4 sentences the most painful or pleasurable sexual experience you have had.

 I think the most painful experience has, oddly, been one of the most pleasurable. Before we met in person we skyped (almost) every night and masturbated together. One night he told me to go grab and ice cube, suck on it for a moment, then stick it in my vagina. And hold it there. I was so obedient and he loved watching the expression on my face turn from surprise, wonder, shock, terror, and outright pain as I held it in my vagina and let it melt completely. I almost couldn't take it - it was so painful. But when it melted away... wow, what pleasure! He really needs to force me to do that again... because it was his observance and telling me to keep it there that kept me from removing it almost immediately. I came so good right after that.

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I restrained him and teased him

Oh new restraints. I don't remember how we decided who would be tied up first, but it was him. So yes, this actually takes place the night before I was tied up and sweetly tortured.

I tied him up, making sure his arms and legs were secured to the four corners of the bed and unable to move.... much. A little struggle is OK. He promised not to struggle too much. Despite the fact the bed is made of metal and has yet to be bent or broken in our many sexual activities, he swears he would break if he could struggle. This is why he wants a strong, huge wooden bed - to struggle. And, to make me struggle.... hmm.

I tied him up and blind folded him, but he could see under the blindfold. I made a minor adjustment by switching it with a silk scarf. Better. He was blind and trapped.

I ever so lightly brushed my fingertips along his chest. Just a quick touch, then gone. Then his arm. Then stomach. Thigh. Nipple. Neck. Knee. Hip. Chest. Arm. Penis. He gave soft moans as I surprised him with my random touching. So gentle, sometimes I even missed his skin. Sometimes I just brushed his hair. I made sure to make him wait for a touch near his penis. Or go just around his penis and never touch it. I wanted him to crave it.

Then I chose another silk scarf and lightly ran it across his body. He arched into it a little. I let it weave around his penis. Slowly. I wrapped it around and pulled it back and forth, letting his penis be constantly touched by silk. More soft moans.

Random kisses placed along his body. Sometimes a lick. I tried to keep it random, and keep my touching to a minimum. Just lips or tongue, no hands or feet or even breasts from leaning over. He needed to be unsure of where I would go next.

I told him he was lucky I respected his boundary of no ice. (Prior to this moment, he has told me that ice was a non-negotiable; if I did it the sex would end in a bad argument. He's tried it before and hated it. So never any ice.) He doesn't understand my meaning, so I clarify. He only replies, "Well, I'm tied up, so I guess I don't have a choice in what you do."

I need to be very clear about this. "So... if I use ice, you won't get very mad at me?" I love ice, please say yes!

"I guess I can't be since you're in charge." That's a yes.... I'm too excited to wait, I rush off to the kitchen to retrieve some ice and pour a little water over it to help chill it even more. I jiggle the cup back in the room so he can hear I have several pieces with me; he'll have no idea how many.  "Guess you couldn't resist," he comments. I can't tell if he's please or not.

"Nope, too bad for you!" I take a large piece and put it in my mouth, focusing on making my tongue very cold. I make sure he doesn't hear that I have a piece. I go back to lightly touching him, teasing his body. His dick is only semi-hard and I'm in no rush. I let him wait. And wait. My tongue is very cold now, the ice is half gone from melting in my mouth. I bend down to kiss him, and he can feel the cold on my lips. I kiss a few times, then lick is nipple.

A huge intake of breath. He gasps and tries to move away, but my tongue is on his stomach, his hip, his thigh, and moving back up his body. The small chunk of ice is toward the back of my mouth and I let the cold water drip toward his body, kissing him. My lips are warming and the ice disappears quickly. He is glad it's over.

It's not. Another large piece, and this time while I still use it to chill my tongue, I allow it to also graze his body as I lick and touch him. I very slowly lick his cock. His body tenses in response. I let the ice cub touch the head of his penis while I start to suck him. I made long and slow sucks on his dick until the ice was gone.

I picked up a smaller piece of ice to hold it in my hand. I let it drip ice cold water droplets on his body, randomly again, as it melted in my hand. Drip. Waiting. Drip. Waiting. Waiting. Drip. As it got smaller, I let the drops get closer to his penis until the last fragment melted away on his penis head. The drops made him flinch more.

I pulled out our riding crop and gave him soft, random spanks across his body. I spanked his balls, too. I interrupted the the light slaps with some more kisses. Down his legs, around his nipples, on his neck.

But I could not ignore the hard penis that was the center of my focus; the center of his body. I took him into my mouth, hungry for his cock. I wasn't sure if I would suck him to orgasm or give him a handjob. The more I sucked, the more it turned me on and I couldn't stop. I gagged on it a few times and refocused on relaxing my throat as I took him in.

More ice in my mouth and I sucked him, letting the cold water swirl around him. I kept the ice off of him, mostly. Occasionally I would let it graze some part of his cock to feel his body tense and flex under me. I sucked, and shifted my weight to take him fully into my mouth... I heard the cup of ice fall over and wet, cold water and ice fell into his hip and under his ass.

I apologized and pulled the ice off the bed and away from his skin. He was biting his lip and scolding me, yet his smile betrayed his delight. I made it up to him by sucking him off with the most suction I could give him. I filled my mouth with him and sucked hard, every so slowly pulling up so the suction lasted as long as I could. Repeat. Repeat. His moans told me he was clearly enjoying it.

My mouth started to tire, so I went back to sucking him and licking his cock while it was in my mouth. I sucked him until he came, pumping warm cum into my mouth which I happily swallowed. I hadn't noticed how tense his body was, I could see it relax after his orgasm ended. It was a good night.