TMI Tuesday: Sex Talk & Sex Ed

June is Adult Sex Ed Month (twitter: #AdultSexEdMonth). The movement was started by blogger @GoodDirtyWoman on twitter. Please read more here: http://agoodwomansdirtymind.com/june-is-adultsexedmonth/

Source: http://sex-in-words.blogspot.com

This week’s TMI Tuesday questions were inspired by Sex-Ed writer Jon Pressick and his#dailysexdiscussion that happens on twitter.

1. Have you ever investigated having an open relationship?
- Have you tried to have an open relationship?

We have talked about having an open relationship, of sorts. Right now I'm looking for a girlfriend who will be my girlfriend (and not his). We're also open to probably playing with other people that we know. Our definition of open is more poly than swinging but we haven't really defined anything yet.

That said, there are definitely people we want to play with.

2. Do you have any sexual phobias?
- What have you done to manage or overcome them?

Maybe? There's not a lot I'm afraid of, sexually. I do have a weird thing about eating ejaculate if not deposited directly deep in my mouth. I don't dislike the taste. It's more that... the texture creeps me out a bit. If he comes on my face and wants me to lick it, I have a very hard time. I actually gag on it.

3. What is the best new sexual activity you have tried in 2013?

Wow.... am I at a loss for how to answer this question? I think I may be! I can't think of anything distinctly new we've done in 2013... hmmm....

4. Have you ever called into a sex advice radio/television show or written to a sex advice columnist?
- Was it helpful?

No, I prefer books and online research more.

5. Would you use the services of a sex therapist? Why or why not?

Yes, I would be open to that if I saw a need.

6. Should sex therapists be allowed to engage in actual sexual activities with clients? Why or why not?

I highly recommend watching the movie “The Sessions” based on a true story of how a sex therapist helped a disabled man live a full, rich life that included sex. Movie trailer:http://www.imdb.com/title/tt1866249/

I think so. Not all therapy is done through talk therapy. Sometimes, physical touch is needed. I've often thought for sex that having interaction and working through the physical with someone knowledgeable would be a positive experience.

Bonus:  Have you read any adult sex ed books lately? What do you recommend?

No, nothing lately. I actually need to add some to my collection so I can continue my learning!

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TMI Tuesday: Summer Lovin'

This week’s TMI Tuesday questions were submitted by virtualsin.wordpress.com

1. Do you have more sex or less when on vacation?
Usually less. FHF and I have so far only been on "vacation" to visit family, and we usually stay with family. So, if there's any sex to be had it's in a hotel on the way or done very quietly (not so fun or easy for me to do). Now... should I get the opportunity to go away for a long weekend (or week) with him for complete leisure, what would happen? Lots of naked touching and sex.

More than normal? Hard to say, but I would venture to say yes.

2. Do you plan a vacation so that you will have an opportunity to have sex?

I wish. See number 1 above.

3. Have you ever planned a vacation in order to meet someone for sex?

Hmm. Kind of? When I met FHF, I had planned a trip to visit family and had him come and meet me in that city before we scurried away back to my home.

4. Have you ever gone on a singles’ cruise or some other hookup-facilitating vacation?
No. Not really interested in that.

5. Have you had sex on a means of transportation other than a car: bus, train, airplane, cruise ship?
*sob* none of the above!

6. Have you had outdoor sex on camping, hiking, skiing, boating vacation?
I've had outdoor hiking oral sex and winter skiing make-outs, but never the full sha-bang. I have this fantasy of under the moon sex and in the pouring rain sex.


Bonus:  Do you pack sex toys, lubes (3.4 oz bottles or less), etc when you fly? Do you think about TSA finding them? Has TSA ever found them and questioned you about your sexual aids or displayed them? Tell us about it.

YES. I always bring my little silver bullet with me. It's small and fits in a nice plastic ziploc to prevent unwanted groping of wandering hands. I always remove the batteries so it doesn't turn on accidentally. So far, no one has noticed it. We normally don't bring lube as its just not a necessity for us.

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TMI Tuesday: Tickle my funny bone

This week, I wrote the questions!

1. Have you ever laughed during sex? Tell us about it.
I remember saying something once when he was upright on his knees looking down at me. Whatever I said hit him just right and he collapsed next to me in a fit of laughter and giggles that lasted a couple of minutes. I have no memory of what I said, but the memory of him falling down - just WHAM! - on the bed laughing so hard is a favorite moment.

2. How important is a sense of humor to you?
SO important! I tend to be such a serious person, so I need someone who can really laugh with me when something is funny.

3. Have you ever thought something was funny when your lover did not? Tell us what it was…My fiance and I met online video gaming and used to do a lot of private in-game chatting while we were also chatting in public with other people. I also held the conversations in two separate "mini-screens" to prevent mix-up.... but he did not. Our friends were VERY curious to read him say in public chat: "I'm sure honey, I always got tested after each partner so I know I'm safe." and then another time: "Oh, I'd love to lick you all over."


I still laugh over that... and he still doesn't think its very funny. The explanations he had to give were hilarious. I played the part of an innocent party who was just as scandalized by the words since we hadn't gone public yet about our relationship.


4. Are pranks funny? Have you ever fallen victim to a prank? Tell us what happened.I love to prank! One year in college I used to trade pranks with a friend all the time. I stole his girly posters (you know, bikinis and the like) and replaced them with male Abercrombie&Fitch posters. He stole my shoes and hid the right shoe of each pair around campus. I stole his bike and made a bike porno with some friends (fully clothed, but still). He made me a potty-throne (since I'm so short) and put maggoty eggs in my room. Good times!

Pranks on lovers? My ex hated pranks... so when I stole his keys one day and replaced all of his books with romance novels, he was furious. We almost broke up over it.  With my fiance I haven't pulled a major prank. We just joke around a lot.


5. What is your favorite kind of humor? (a complete list can be found at:  http://www.dailywritingtips.com/20-types-and-forms-of-humor/

I'm a huge fan of the ironic and satirical humor set. I love events or situations turning on people. The world is so funny.... but I also love highbrow humor, droll, and anecdotal humor. Every once in a while I can tell the funniest stories about something that's happened to me. And then sometimes I tell it and it receives no response. 

I prefer Douglas Adams to Adam Sandler EVERY DAY OF THE YEAR.

Bonus: Tell us an embarrassing and/or funny moment you experienced with a lover.
Funny moment: When I start to orgasm and get really loud, the cat will come running up to my face to check on me to make sure I'm ok. It's hilarious and completely changes the mood of the moment. We've started to just lock her out of the bedroom to prevent these interruptions. Apparently she's learned that and has started hiding in the room. A couple of weeks ago we were having sex and I started having multiple orgasms and was getting quite loud. All of a sudden we hear this muffled cat growl-meow of protest come from underneath the bed -- the meow of protest. "I can't do anything about this, but I don't like it."

We both stopped and started laughing so hard. I got up and opened the bedroom door and she made a very quick exit. 

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TMI Tuesday: Navigating Sex

1. Answer Yes or No:
I Regret My First Kiss - yes.... only in that, it should have happened with someone else much earlier. Oddly enough, if I'd had the first kiss I should have, I would never have married my ex since I would have known what chemistry was. But I held off on the first kiss in the name of "saving it all for that special someone." Oh, the irony.
I Miss My First Love - no. We're still friends.
I Married My First Love - no.
I Loved Someone That Didn’t Love Me - no.

2. Do you consider yourself monogamous or polyamorous or some other category which you will explain or define for us now?
Other. And I made a little image to illustrate it. (We are the pink dot).
 

We started as monogamous, but we're heading more toward the polyamory side. I say 'we' even though its more like me. He is not interested in having extra relationships even though I'd be comfortable with him doing that. He is interested and supportive of me pursuing relationships with women as I'm not at all comfortable or able to be a swinger. We've discussed having additional male partners play with me and its something we'd both like to try. However, it would be more of a polyamorous connection than swinging as I need to have an emotional connection in order to have attraction and desire. I'm sure there's a better way to explain it, but I have no idea how that would be phrased.

3. Your partner is in the mood for sex and you are tired – what do you do?
a. Start snoring. There is no way I’m giving it up tonight.
b. Trade. You give me a massage… and we will see…
c. That would never happen!

It used to be C, but with my longer work hours and his early starts, its just not always feasible for us. Recently what we've done is cuddled as the horny one masturbated. This leaves about a 30% chance to mutual masturbation and/or sex anyway.  I'm not sure if there's anything sexier than having your lover hold you while they masturbate.

4. Does your partner mind if you masturbate, in bed, when they are there?
He only minds it if I wake him up from my moaning. And he never remembers it the next day, anyway. The most I get is him turning over to check on me, say a quick "You're naughty!" and he rolls back over.

5. Describe your typical sexual romp:
a. You are playful and tame
b. You have occasionally introduced a few things like outfits and toys
c. You love trying new things and shocking your partner

I'd say we're a B here. We normally don't shock each other... we're a slut for each other and we know that. 

Bonus: What was your best ever masturbation experience. Why was it the best? Describe.
Best ever? Impossible. I don't rate them and there's no way I could keep track of so many. Oh, I have a new favorite masturbation fantasy... but that will have to wait for a separate blog entry.

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TMI Tuesday: Ifs, Ands, and Butts

1. If you had a magic beauty wand, what would you give yourself? a. Shinier hair, hands down. b. Glowing, soft skin–pass the moisturizer dude. c. Brighter eyes, with no crows feet—I want to look less tired. d. Nada. I love what I’ve got.

My answer to this is actually D. Of the choices above, I'm happy with all of those. I have shiny, healthy hair. My skin is pretty healthy and very soft. My eyes are still pretty young, and whatever lines or wrinkles I see are ones I wouldn't trade for anything. They're the XP of my life showing.

2. If you were spring cleaning your life what five things would you throw out?
First, my fear of taking risks.
Second, my regret over some recent friend drama. I regret it happened, but not the outcome. It was for the best.
Third, the nasty old carpet all over my house I really wish I could replace.
Fourth, my 30-mile one-way commute to work. I'm so tired of it.
Fifth, my need to please everyone but myself first.

3. If money were no object, what kind of house would you buy?
I'd buy a 3 bedroom with a large office that has a basement. Two car garage. Nice fenced yard with a deck or patio. Some wood burning fireplaces. Really, all of that sounds indulgent to a point. I've never lived in a super large house, but as a maid I've cleaned them and seen how "stuff" just takes over to fill space. No thank you!

4. Have you ever visited an erotic massage parlor AND had a happy ending?
I have not.... yet. It's on the bucket list and I'm super interested in making this happen.

Bonus: Using the handy chart, what is your butt type, spanked or not?

Well, FHF and I can't decide on which one, for either, so here's a pic of both. You can be the judge.

Spankification: Author of original types of butts poster unknown.
Types of Spanked Butts by Dioneo Daspanca, 2011

Well, FHF and I can't decide on which one, for either, so here's a pic of both. You can be the judge.

About 10 min after the spanking

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TMI Tuesday: Memorable Moments

What are your five (5) most memorable/amazing sexual moments?

I'm counting these down to the best sexual moment.

5. The first time I had an orgasm from oral sex. Um, yeah. I knew I was missing something, but when it happened for the first time, I was hooked (especially since he could make it happen again and again).

4. The first time I had more than 1 orgasm from masturbation. I had always been a one orgasm girl during masturbation. During the build-up, when pleasure was so high and it felt so amazing, I would tell myself I was going for at least two. I never did. Once the orgasm hit I was so satisfied and the drop from the peak of orgasm to resting was so big that I couldn't muster the desire to do it all over again. That is, until I started having phone sex with my fiance. During one of our first times he told me I was going to have more than one; he would walk me through it. We talked to each other, me describing what I was doing and how it felt. When I came, he listened to me orgasm. What felt like a few seconds of time post-orgasm he told me to do it again, fast. I trusted him and my fingers went after my clit -- BOOM. Second orgasm. Then third. And then he came, listening to me.

3. The first time we had sex. The whole night was amazing. He was so afraid that he was going to hurt me since I'd only had a little bit of boring sex with one person prior to him. He didn't hurt me. The first several months of our relationship he went very slow and very gentle on me. All I remember is how amazing it felt and how loving he was as he coached me through it.
 
2.  Pegging my fiance and seeing the exquisite pleasure on his face when he came as I fucked against his prostate. He never comes as hard as he does when I hit that just right. 

1. Having a partner acknowledge, affirm, and accept my bisexuality and encourage my full exploration of it.


Bonus:  What is one quality you appreciate in a lover?
A good ear. You can tell all you need to know about how I'm enjoying something or where I'm at in my cycle of arousal just from listening. It doesn't happen immediately and it takes time, but once you know it, you can really make me come.

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TMI Tuesday: Fantasy & Role Play

1. To spice things up in the bedroom, how adventurous are you willing to be? (select one)
a. I have never role-played before and will need a lot of instruction.
b. I have tested the waters, but never acted out anything scripted.
c. I have got my feet wet and want more!
d. Dive in head first – nothing is too deep.

Hmm. For me I think the answer is B. I've never role-played before FHF* and our role-play has been somewhat limited. I've loved what we've done so far, but it certainly hasn't been much and I feel very much like a n00b doing it.

2. What scenario peaks your interest most? Why?
a. Romantic and sensual
b. Playful and fun
c. Kinky! I want it all.

C. C. C. C. C! Romance is great, but its just not us. We don't role-play romance, it happens naturally when it does. For B, I think anything we do is somewhat playful and fun. But kink - we are always up for some kink. And anything we role-play is definitely kinky.

3. Which of these is closest to your ideal setting for a fantasy?
a. A brothel
b. A dungeon
c. A bedroom
d. A prison cell

C. Believe it or not, we keep things in a bedroom setting. The others seem interesting, but we've just haven't been there yet. Oh... the question was idealsetting. Well then, I'd say A or B.

4. Which of the following toys would be prominently featured in your fantasy? (select one)
a. Feathers and whipped cream
b. Handcuffs, panty hose, and a necktie
c. Whips and chains
d. Ice cubes and a cold beer

C. We're fans of punishment.... although B might make an interesting rape play.

5. It is time to take your sexy self to fantasy island, which fantasy will you bring to life to rock your lover’s world?
a. The Sassy Sexy Jersey Whore. Gaudy, Flashy, Showy…totally Jersey!
b. Kinky Cook. It’s all about the spice! Heating things up in the kitchen.
c. Naughty Maid. Your feather duster will tickle more than just the dust on the shelves.
d. Doctor Love. Saving lives and breaking hearts but not before you administer a head-to-toe physical examination.
e. Frisky Fireman. A hose so long you can put out several of the hottest fires and leave a smoldering heap as proof of a job well done.

Well, considering we already have a video of B (that happens on a regular basis), I'm going to add in C as a fantasy to bring to life. I wouldn't use a feather duster, but I'd be sure to be taken advantage of and just unable to resist the charms of the guest.

Bonus:  Tell us about your craziest or wildest role-playing adventure.
I don't think we've done anything exceptionally wild or crazy. We're much higher on the kink level... like doing a hentai-esque brother-sister role-play. And that's all I'm going to say about that.

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*FHF = Fucking Hot Fiance

TMI Tuesday: The Erotic Home

SinnerMan strikes again! This week’s questions are brought to you by virtualsin.wordpress.com.

1. When you bought your bed frame, did you evaluate it in terms of ropes, handcuffs, etc?
YES. A thousand times yes. I have to say, I made the right choice, no? (And this was purchased prior to the FHF*).  So many options...

Possibilities are endless!

2. Aside from beds, was sex ever a major consideration in choosing a piece of furniture?
Of course! When we purchased our large leather ottoman, we whispered to each other in the store how good it would be for sex. And it has been.


3. Have you ever had anyone else (friend, mom) say a piece of your furniture was inappropriate because it was clearly for sexual purposes?
No, mostly because I don't have any friends or family over. We're too far away from everyone. So... I guess we need new friends!


4. Do you have a piece of furniture that has a stain caused by bodily fluids (baby vomit not included)?
Yes. My mattress was 5 years old and spotless before the FHF. Six months after learning how to squirt and its stained everywhere... we finally invested in a waterproof mattress pad, but the damage has been done. Aside from that, no, I try to be very careful about that.

5. Do you have anything in your bedside table you wouldn’t want your father or mother to know about?
I'm on the fence about this. Honestly, I don't care if they peak and find out. That's what they get for peaking. Only a few toys are on/in the bedside table (okay ON not IN) and the majority are in our sex toy cabinet.

6. Do you own any exercise equipment that is useful for sex?
We have a couple of exercise balls, but have yet to put them into any good use. I really don't want to think about exercise when having sex.

7. Aside from your bedroom, what room do you have sex in most often?
The kitchen! We love kitchen sex... 

8. Do you have any electronics (TV, stereo) etc in your bedroom that are on during sex?
Never. We never do TV or music during sex. It's always 100% about us. Ok well one time while watching Netflix in bed, we had sex, but the volume was off (we turned it off) so we wouldn't be distracted. Sex by laptop light.

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*FHF = Fucking Hot Fiance

TMI Tuesday: Sexual Adventures

Complete each sentence with an anecdote of sexual adventure or misadventure:

1. The first time I . . . ever felt a penis, I had only seen one in a textbook. I was 18 and had snuck away for the weekend from college with my boyfriend at the time. We'd been "dating" almost a year and had never touched genitals of the opposite sex. The first thing I said when I touched it was, "Holy crap! That is much harder than I thought it would be..." and then got very nervous for my vagina. (We didn't have sex anytime soon after that).

2. The last time I . . . went shopping with the FHF, I showed him a sweater I wanted to get that was a see-through crochet and he popped a boner in the middle of the store. I rubbed up against it (I had to check how hard he was --- and it was really hard). It's too bad the sweater was $40, as we didn't get it. If it had been less than $20 we would have. 

3. The only time I . . . have ever had sex while watching TV was this past weekend with Scrubs reruns playing on the laptop in our dark bedroom. The light made a great effect in the room. We need to make this more than a one time thing.

4. My best . . . sexual memory is related to my worst memory. It features the contrast of feelings to my worst experience in the most loving, tender, and powerful sex I've ever experienced. The feelings of being so loved and accepted made me cry during sex and you can read about it here.

5. My worst . . . sexual experience was being told by my ex that I tasted horrible "down there" and he couldn't/wouldn't do it. It destroyed my confidence for years.

BONUS: Everyone, however much experienced, still has some unfulfilled desires. What is at the top of your yet-to-do list?  This one is so easy. I'd love to kiss a girl. 

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TMI Tuesday: You Ought to be in Pictures

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TMI Tuesday: Fantasy, Anyone?

1. Do you think that acting out a fantasy can sometimes cause damage to a relationship?
 Only if one partner feels coerced or forced to be a part/not a part of this fantasy. If both partners are willing, I'm not sure how it can be damaging.

2. Some couples role play their fantasies rather than introducing another person into the relationship to live out their fantasies. Do you think that this is an acceptable substitute?
Wait, people role play their fantasies without their regular partner? I'm confused... I thought role playing was about playing with your partner, not finding someone else. I've always wanted my partner to be a part of my fantasy in some way; at the very least, emotionally supportive. In my world, having your partner part of the fantasy is the point!

3. Is there a particular movie or TV series or character from a movie or TV series that you fantasise about?
No, I don't. The closest I've come is fantasizing about Clay Matthews. Can you blame me?

4. Apart from the obvious things like child abuse, are there some things that are ‘off limits’ for a fantasy e.g. incest fantasies, age play, rape fantasies. Why/ why not?
I think a fantasy is just that, a fantasy. I'm don't think fantasizing about anything is off limits. Would I act out everything? No, certainly not. But the BF and I have fantasized brother-sister scenes, Daddy-daughter, and rape. We've enjoyed all of it!

5. What is the most taboo thing you have ever fantasised about doing?
I'm going to plead the fifth. And for this blog, you know that's extreme....

6. Tell us about a fantasy that you have that you don’t ever see yourself actually acting out. Why do you think you will never act it out?
Well, there's the jungle gang-bang fantasy that is my oft-used masturbation fantasy.  I've been told it's pretty hot - and I'd recommend you go read it if you haven't yet. In reality, I don't want to stumble across a bunch of people and be forced to take cock after cock and be bukkaked regardless of what I say. There is no safety word or safe sex in my fantasy - and that's why it will remain a fantasy.

7. Have you ever pretended the person you were having sex with was someone else without telling them?
Yes. I felt terrible about it. But it's only happened with my ex.

8. Have you ever tried to make a fantasy a reality only to have it fail miserably? What happened?
No, not yet. But we haven't done a lot of role playing, either.

Bonus: Tell us about your most cherished fantasy. Did you ever live it out? Please give us all the juicy details because that is the kind of people we are.
I don't know if I have a most cherished fantasy. The past year and a half has been an incredible sexual experience. So many things I've wanted to do sexually (with a man) I have now done. I would say 90% of my fantasies include women now.

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TMI Tuesday: Prostate Love

1. When is the last time you or your loved one had their prostate checked?
I'm not sure? My BF has never had his checked by a doctor, and since I don't have one, I guess our total is zero times.

2. Besides a medical professional, how many other people have had their finger up your ass?
Just one, my boyfriend.  Normally I get one finger or a thumb. Once I had two fingers.

3. Have you ever given or received a prostate massage? Did you like it? Did you cum or orgasm?
I have given several prostate massages and really enjoyed them! I trimmed my nails extra short and wore latex gloves to keep my fingers clean and prevent any accidental scratching. It was very awesome to watch his face as my finger found his prostate and started to massage him. He did orgasm, and the feeling of his prostate right before orgasm was AWESOME.

4. Do you enjoy anal play–rimming, fingering, penetration, etc.?

I do! I love to rim and finger and peg my boyfriend. All three are a lot of fun and bring a lot of fun play into our sex life.

Oh, and I like receiving fingering and rimming at any time! Penetration is OK with a dildo or his ass, but I don't like it all the time. 

5. Ever had anal sex?
A. No, and I don’t want to.
B. No, but I am dying to try it.
C. Yes, but it is just okay.
D. Yes, love it…can’t get enough of it.
E. That’s the way I like it. Anal sex is the best sex.
For me: C. It's just okay for me. I do enjoy it, but somewhat infrequently.

For the BF: he says D. He loves anal play - both giving and receiving.

6. You are about to have anal sex, which method would you choose (You must choose one.):
A. Finger up the ass
B. Prostate stimulator/massager
C. Penis–real or strap-on
For me, A. I really love having a finger in my ass. It feels so good, and when he wiggles his finger in my ass while he's fucking me, it gets me so excited!

He would choose C, again for both giving and receiving.

Bonus: Show us your Movember moustache. Post a photo.
Sorry, no bonus from us this time!

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TMI Tuesday: Movember

Hello my fellow TMI Tuesday junkies. Movember is in full-swing. I can’t wait to see those Mo’s a little later in the month. In the meantime here is a set of VERY fine TMI Tuesday questions from longtime blogger and frequent TMI Tuesday question contributor virtualsin.wordpress.com
If you don’t know what Movember is all about see previous TMI Tuesday posts or click here.

Some men who have been treated for Prostate Cancer are unable to get an erection.
1. If they were treated with surgery, the usual reason is nerve damage. They may have success with a penis pump. Question: Have you (or your partner) ever used a pump? Did it work? Was it a turn-on or a turn-off? 
We have not used a penis pump, but it is probably #2 or #3 on our list of "next toys to buy." We've both been curious (BF more so, I think) on the fun we could have with it. He really wants to see his penis grow, become larger, and then probably fuck me with it and call me a slut. You know, the usual for our sex life. :) So, definitely a turn on. (Plus, have you seen some of the images of nipples and clits being pumped? HOT).

2. If they were treated with radiation, the usual reason is damage to blood vessels. They may have good luck with Viagra or or one of the other impotence meds. Question: Have you (or your partner) ever used Viagra, Cialis, or similar? Did it work? Any interesting side effects? Any 4-hour erections? Tell us how you made use of that
No, we haven't. Neither of us is a fan of using drugs outside of prescribed use, so we wouldn't just going using. the BF has NO problem getting erections now, so I'm sure we would end up in the ER asking for help when its still there hours and hour later and I'm begging for him to stop and let me be.

3. Some men may opt for a penile implant. See http://www.urologicalcare.com/advanced-ed-treatments/types-penile-implants/. Do you have experience with a penile implant (as owner or lover-of-owner)? Did it work for you?
No, no experience here... I'm not sure what I think of these. I'm not sure my BF would want one unless we had exhausted every other option out there. He's not a fan of the idea of surgery in or on his penis.

4. If they were treated with hormone therapy (e.g. Lupron Depot), they may also lose all libido. I can’t think of a good question, but if you have a story, please share.
 I have no story, but I have a comment. My boyfriend is always horny. Always. His day starts and ends with an orgasm and frequently includes one in between. I can't imagine him without libido and I think if he lost it, he would feel very lost and quite depressed about it. I think he would feel like he lost part of his masculinity with having so much desire to none. This is one of life's unpleasant hurdles that, as his life partner, I would hope I could support him through it and be the friend he needed without adding to any guilty, sad, or unhappy feelings.

5. Some men diagnosed with Prostate Cancer change their diet or avoid certain foods. Did you ever change your diet for health reasons? How did it work out? How long did you stay on the diet?
I have on several occasions. During my senior year of high school, I went vegetarian for a full year. It wasn't too difficult, until Thanksgiving came around. The turkey ruined me, I couldn't resist it. Since then, however, I've been pretty much unable to eat steak and sometimes even hamburger. Walking through the meat department occasionally makes me dry-heave because I can smell the blood and raw meat. I've also gone a full month without cheese and it was incredibly difficult. Cheese goes on everything and there just isn't a great substitute out there. I was so happy to let cheese back in my life.

On a side note, due to my personal religious convictions, I don't eat shellfish or pork. I've never had shrimp, crab, or lobster (nor have any interest in it - they smell awful) and I've had pork by mistake a couple of times. My boyfriend eats both, so occasionally we don't share dinners/dishes. I also eat tofu which he does not.

6. The prostate is a sexual organ, and treatment of the prostate changes the sexual experience. A man who has had his prostate removed does not ejaculate at orgasm. How would you react to a total lack of cum?
For me, its not a big deal. My big love of cum is that I love seeing a physical representation of orgasm -- aside from his body.  I can't always read his body correctly, so somethings I need or rely on that visual cue that he is/is not experiencing orgasm. For him, it would be terrible. The sight of cum pouring from a cock is one of the things he loves most about having a penis or watching a penis in porn.

7. Although removal of the prostate reduces the intensity of orgasm in the pelvic region, some men report orgasmic feelings in other parts of the body, some describing a “whole body orgasm.” How cool is that?
Very, very cool! I wonder if it allows sensations to be felt when otherwise they could not, or if the body changes its perception of orgasm? Either way, it sounds like a win for him.

8. Do you think a man treated for Prostate Cancer deserves a blow job? If yes, please email Virtual Sin aka SinnerMan…
Well, I don't know... does he take blow jobs from other men? Cause my boyfriend would love to be first in line for that...

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TMI Tuesday: The Long and Short of it

Thank you Erotic Adventures in Brisneyland for the following TMI Tuesday questions.

1. What is the longest relationship you have been in?
With my ex, we were together just over 9 years.

2. What is the shortest relationship you have been in?
Well, I'm only counting adult official relationships here, so my only other relationship has been with my BF for the last year and half or so.

3. How often do you have sex? How often do you want sex?
I'm going to interpret "sex" as any type of interpersonal sexual activity so it includes oral sex, hand jobs, etc. That we have about six days a week. The seventh is not for rest but the random "I'm too tired to care about sex" we both experience. If one of us is in the too tired stage, the other always participates by lending cuddles, gropes, and dirty words. Wanting sex? I want sex almost every day at least once. Sometimes I want it four or five times a day.  He normally wants it upon waking up and right before bed. I like to push things to happen in between.

4. How long does sex usually last?
I've never officially timed us. I would say between 10 and 20 minutes depending on what we're doing. This is just for penetrative sex from first kisses to final cuddles. 

5. Have you ever had an experience where someone couldn’t perform, finished too quickly or couldn’t keep up with you? Tell us about it?
With both partners I've experienced those awkward moments when they "couldn't get it up."  I didn't freak out or take it personally and asked him for help... when he couldn't get it up, we just called it a night and tried again the next day.

6. If you could only have one “type” of sexual encounter for the rest of your life, would you prefer
a) short and sweet
b) wham bam thank you ma’am
c) here for the long haul
d) slow and tender

I would say short and sweet. I'm a busy woman - I don't need a long, hour-long love-making session. Let's make it sweet and lovely but just long enough where we're both satisfied.

Bonus: Would you consider ending an otherwise healthy and loving relationship if the sex wasn’t what you wanted?
I think it depends on the nature of that relationship. How disappointing is it? I've had my share of disappointment.I would bring up polyamory as an option. If this hypothetical relationship were open to it, I think I could be quite happy in having my sexual and emotional needs met. Of course, that's all nice talk until it happens in the relationship.

TMI Tuesday: Then and Now, age 17

1. What one part of your sex life today would most surprise the 17 year old you?
The 17 year old me was a virgin who knew she was kinky, but was unsure just how kinky. She knew she wanted restraints, fucking, multiple penetration options, She would probably be surprised that I enjoy anal sex, rimming, and I enjoy watersports and my boyfriend's foot fetish.

2. What one thing might shock that younger you?
That I'm living with my boyfriend... living in sin! At 17 there was no way that I would have considered that a possibility. I was too much of a good girl back then. And by good girl, I mean I would have not considered sex before marriage and surely marriage would be permanent.

3. What part of the younger you’s (not necessarily at age 17) sex life do you look back on with the most nostalgia?
Well, up until a year ago, my sex life was pretty awful. I don't miss any part of that. The only thing I'd love to revisit would be our first few weeks together where we are really learning each other's bodies and desires. Back then we had sex every day, multiple times a day, in every way possible. OK we did that for months... we've slowed down to most days of the week at least once a day.

4. Is there anything in the younger you’s sexual ambitions or fantasies you have not yet fulfilled?
Being with a woman, of course!  Oh, and DP with two cocks and maybe a third in my mouth. (And no, I'm not taking volunteers right now!)

Bonus:  Give your 17 year old self a piece of sexual advice.
Don't settle! If someone won't do something that seems basic and essential to you, realize that's not going to change and its just an indication of how things are going to go. It's actually a good thing to date around and make sure EVERYTHING is going to work.

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TMI Tuesday: Can we just be friends?

1.     Have you ever had a friendship with a someone where you secretly (or not so secretly) desired them?
 Absolutely! In high school I had a crush on several guys who were my friends. I couldn't help it - they were sweet, fun, and hot. I even got the nerve to tell a couple of them I liked them. One of the turned into a pity date (it was sweet but yeah, neither of us wanted more than that one date) and the other turned into a very complicated relationship. I haven't told that story, and I'm not sure I ever will at this point.

2.     Are you prone to jealousy, suspicion or insecurity when your partner spends time with an attractive close friend without you? Why?
No, I'm not. I fully trust him and I don't regulate his friendships or people he talks to without me. We operate on full disclosure, and he has no problems telling me if he thinks she's attractive (and in how many ways) and how things went. I do the same. Neither of us has anything to hide or worry about with our other half being out with anyone attractive. Since we're bisexual, if we had this concern it would have to be with anyone in the world. That's too exhausting!

3.     Has a previously platonic friendship ever bloomed into a sexual relationship?
Yes. This is how my ex-husband and I started. We were platonic friends and started dating from peer pressure of "Well, you hang out enough to be." It was the first sexual relationship for either of us. My mistake was confusing interest in sex for interested in him.  

4.     Have you ever remained close friends with an ex-lover?
No, I'm not really friends with my ex-husband. I tried as he was and had been in that "friend-zone" for a while, but it only ended in him getting vicious with his words from all the hurt I caused him... so that's on hiatus. It's a shame - in so many ways he could be a really good friend. He always was and I'd like him to be.

I've remained friends with that complicated relationship from high school I mentioned in #1. He was my first love but we knew it would never work out, so we refrained from a sexual relationship. I think that restraint helped us stay friends afterwards. We stayed in touch consistently. He came to my wedding, and asked me to meet a potential fiancee as he wanted an old friend's opinion since he didn't have any other older friends in the area to meet her. I'm invited to his wedding in January. I've loved that, despite the high emotional component of our relationship, we readjusted back to friends.

Bonus:  Have you ever developed feelings for a “friend with benefits”? How did it develop, unfold, resolve?
No. I don't think I could do this type of relationship.

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TMI Tuesday: Random!

Hey, hey, hey, hey…Time to get random again on TMI Tuesday. Why? Because it is fun to know random stuff about you; it can reveal a lot about your personality.

1. Tell us about your sluttiest act ever.
Ever?  Well, that depends on your definition of slutty. It's pretty slutty to meet a guy online, bring him to your apartment after only spending a few hours with him, strip naked, shower with him, and spend 15 hours having sex. But you know, that's just me. (Wanna read more about that? Part 1 and Part 2 of our first 24 hours together). 

2. Have you ever played air-guitar. . .naked?
 No... can't say I have. I've played drums naked. And by drums, I mean my boobs or my BF's ass.

3. To what song do you most like to play air-guitar either clothed or naked?
 Oh, I freestyles my naked music playing.

4. Are you good in bed? Why?
Of course I am! All 2 men I've been with have said so. OK one of them was a virgin, but the other one has had 7+ partners and I'm the only one who has made him have the best (and sometimes only) orgasm for hand, oral, sex, pegging, and prostate massage.

On a serious note, I'm good because I listen and pay attention. Oh, and I like to be creative. Even though I don't have a dick, I can imagine pretty well what would feel good on it.

5. What FEELS Sexy to you–tactile sensation? (Leave sight and taste out of this)
Fingers. Tongue. My BF's back against my breasts. Big, strong, muscular arms. Silk. Cotton. Water. Purring.

Bonus: Write a six word autobiography.
Lost in world, then found purpose

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TMI Tuesday: On Stripping

1. Have you ever danced naked in front of anyone? What prompted the experience?
Definitely I have. But I can't dance at all, so it normally lasted only a minute or two at most. I just don't know how to make my body dance sexy at all.

2. Have you been to a strip club? Was it what you expected?
No, I haven't. I've never been invited and I'm not sure I'm interested in going.

3. Have you ever been to an “amateur night” at a strip club?
Nope.

4. Do you think strip clubs are exploitative or are they misunderstood as simple adult entertainment venues?
That's a great question, I'm just not sure. I see two worlds of strip clubs: the girls who are there because they can't find a job anywhere else or they are single moms are and end up there out of desperation, and then the world where the women choose it as their profession because they are entertainers and can make some great money doing it.

I think the exploitative part depends on who is partaking of the entertainment. I hate the stigma of the strip club being the "Go to" experience for bachelor parties - that feels exploitative to me. I don't like the stigma that, because you are paying them, you should be able to get away with behavior that you wouldn't be able to anywhere else.

If you can approach the dancers respectfully and realize they are another human being where this is their livelihood rather than a thing to ogle and touch because you've purchased that right - that's the key.

5. Would you ever consider stripping to pay for college or other expenses?
In college I wouldn't have because I was too grounded in my conservative background and considered stripping exploitative 100% of the time.  To my knowledge I don't know anyone who has stripped, but I have friends who know someone and all I've heard is it made great money and was worth it. I think if you can make an incredible living and stay fit (stripping is a workout!) then more power to you. 

I would consider today if I had the body and stamina for it and the confidence.

6. Have you ever given your partner a private dance?
See number 1. It wasn't very sexy and didn't last very long.

7. Would you ever perform a lap dance for a complete stranger?
Complete stranger? No, I don't really want to be touching a complete stranger other than to just give him a lap dance. (I'm assuming this is for free, right?)

8. Showgirls, Strip Tease, Magic Mike … What is the sexy Hollywood stripper scene you have ever YouTubed?
I haven't seen any of them. Stripping just isn't my thing. I don't care for the tease at all. I'd rather watch female strippers over male strippers any day. Male strippers or anyone like the Chippendale's are NOT my cup of tea. I'm not at all attracted to them. 

Bonus: Do you have a stripper fantasy, that given the chance of not being found out, you would turn into a reality?
No, I really don't. The only thing close to a fantasy would be learning how to pole dance.

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TMI Tuesday: The Big O

1 – Do you remember your first orgasm? How old were you? Tell us about it.
Even though I first started masturbating at the age of 12 (I think), I didn't orgasm until I was 18. Try as I might (and try I did almost every day for those 6 years!), I could never orgasm. It would get very pleasurable, and I would get close, but I didn't know how to pace myself and build to orgasm... more often than not I just rushed into it and got a good feeling, but never the satisfaction. I knew there was 'more.'

My first orgasm happened in Geneva, Switzerland. My boyfriend at the time and I had snuck off campus and rented a "cheap" hotel room in the red light district (the only area we poor college students could afford). We had been dating for about 9 months but I hadn't even removed my bra yet... well, that night I did. It was also the first time I had him remove his pants (but not his underwear!) and I found his boner quiet hard under me as I sat astride him. Making out I ended up grinding my hips and found the perfect angle where my clit rubbed the length of his dick up and down. I knew where it was going but I didn't give myself away. I just kissed him through the pleasure and came for the first time ever.

Poor virgin didn't even realize it until I told him about it years later.

2 – What is your favorite way to orgasm? (Sex, g-spot/p-spot, oral, etc).
Hands down my favorite way is with fingers on my clit! It's more intense with something (preferably dick) in me while this is happening, but a clitoral orgasm with fingers is awesome. I am so attracted to hands and its more exciting than tongue and more pleasurable than penis.

3 – Are there any ways you want to experience an orgasm but haven’t yet? (oral, p-spot/g-spot, with or without a vibrator, squirt, etc).
I finally achieved squirting, but I would really like to combine it more with orgasm (its not always simultaneous) and actually target it rather than it happen only 50% of the time when I'm trying for it. Otherwise I can G-spot orgasm but it is rare. And, lucky me, my BF is quite good at making me cum via oral sex.

4 – Have you ever had an orgasm in your sleep?
No! I always wake up RIGHT before it's going to happen. 90% of the time my hand is touching myself so I go ahead and finish anyway... I mean, how could I not!?

5 – What is the easiest/fastest way for you to have an orgasm?
Well, it used to be with my fingers. However, since I bought the Hitachi, that is such an easy way to cum. Actually its almost TOO easy. It takes just a few minutes and I'm done. 

6 – How many times a week do you try to reach orgasm?
I don't set a goal, ever. I just let it happen. I would say last year (prior to the house purchase and my crazy work schedule over the summer) I was averaging 25 orgasms a week. Now I'm probably in the 10-15 range. That's OK - its still A LOT.

7 – Have you ever had an orgasm at the same time as your partner? Who normally cums first?
YES. Now, I realize this is the bane of porn and erotica where the partners always orgasm together... it's not always for us, but it does happen a lot. I get very excited when a man comes in me. If I've been having a pleasurable time and building up, there's a good chance that when he comes that first tremble of his will trigger my own orgasm. It's so freaking hot I just come. If not, then I get super horny and am almost guaranteed the need to come again. 

There are plenty of times where my orgasm triggers his from my initial clench around his penis. My whole body arches into him and it sends him over the edge - and wow. It's a beautiful moment.

Normally I come first during PIV sex. My boyfriend is very good at holding off his orgasm to ensure I always come first. If for whatever reason I don't, he absolutely helps me finish.

8 – Can you have multiples?
Yes, I can. It happens very frequently, especially with a vibrator or while getting fucked through an orgasm.

9 – How long does it normally take you to reach orgasm?
With my fingers, between 5-10 minutes. Through PIV sex, anywhere from 3-15 min depending on what we do, etc. From oral, about 5 minutes. With the Hitachi, oh about 2 minutes.

These are my best guesses - I really lose track of time.

10 – Have you ever faked one?
NO. I don't understand the point of it. Anyone I'll ever sleep with or be intimate will be treated with the respect of me always being honest. Sometimes it just isn't going to happen because I'm tired, distracted, sick, etc. Sometimes I don't care but I just want to be used. I'm not going to prolong things just to lie about it. If its not working for me, I'll be honest and tell you what to change or what I need. Some nights I can't orgasm from PIV sex and I need clit stimulation. Some nights I don't want my clit touched. Very recently I was fucked so hard I couldn't have penetration for almost three days, so it was vibe only for me.

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