TMI Tuesday: Prostate Love

1. When is the last time you or your loved one had their prostate checked?
I'm not sure? My BF has never had his checked by a doctor, and since I don't have one, I guess our total is zero times.

2. Besides a medical professional, how many other people have had their finger up your ass?
Just one, my boyfriend.  Normally I get one finger or a thumb. Once I had two fingers.

3. Have you ever given or received a prostate massage? Did you like it? Did you cum or orgasm?
I have given several prostate massages and really enjoyed them! I trimmed my nails extra short and wore latex gloves to keep my fingers clean and prevent any accidental scratching. It was very awesome to watch his face as my finger found his prostate and started to massage him. He did orgasm, and the feeling of his prostate right before orgasm was AWESOME.

4. Do you enjoy anal play–rimming, fingering, penetration, etc.?

I do! I love to rim and finger and peg my boyfriend. All three are a lot of fun and bring a lot of fun play into our sex life.

Oh, and I like receiving fingering and rimming at any time! Penetration is OK with a dildo or his ass, but I don't like it all the time. 

5. Ever had anal sex?
A. No, and I don’t want to.
B. No, but I am dying to try it.
C. Yes, but it is just okay.
D. Yes, love it…can’t get enough of it.
E. That’s the way I like it. Anal sex is the best sex.
For me: C. It's just okay for me. I do enjoy it, but somewhat infrequently.

For the BF: he says D. He loves anal play - both giving and receiving.

6. You are about to have anal sex, which method would you choose (You must choose one.):
A. Finger up the ass
B. Prostate stimulator/massager
C. Penis–real or strap-on
For me, A. I really love having a finger in my ass. It feels so good, and when he wiggles his finger in my ass while he's fucking me, it gets me so excited!

He would choose C, again for both giving and receiving.

Bonus: Show us your Movember moustache. Post a photo.
Sorry, no bonus from us this time!

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A new way to orgasm

In June during our no sex pact, we were horny and drive to suck and finger each other as much as we could. Nothing brought the relief of we needed: fucking. But during this frenzied, unleashed passion we discovered for each other, we discovered a new way to make me orgasm. A way neither of us expected.

It started with me begging him to eat me out. My need for orgasms was not to be sated, no matter how long he licked and sucked at me. Five orgasms came so quickly but I still felt wanting. His mouth had been so hot and warm. I was so turned on with desire that I couldn't beg enough for more or orgasm loud enough. The orgasms passed too quickly.

The entire time his mouth had been on me, my hands had been jerking on his very hard dick. The more he made me come, the harder and faster I wanted to jack him off. I wanted him to come, but I didn't want to stop coming myself.

After orgasm number five, I told him it was his turn. He thought his work was done, but not quite. I had him lay down on his back, then I crawled on top, positioning my pussy above his mouth.

"Lick," was all I had to say. And he did. Slightly pulling my pussy lips wide, he slid his tongue in between my pussy lips. My head sank down to his cock, sucking the head of it. He responded with tongue-fucking my vagina. I moaned into his cock, stilling my head and just letting my tongue express how good I was feeling.

He moaned into me and pressed himself as far as he could into my body. My lips became incapable of holding his cock. I pulled my right hand off the bed and resumed jerking off his cock. My head was resting against the head of his penis, moaning, it was all the control my mouth had.

I thought he would complain about the loss of my tongue, but when I started to jerk him off, he became more aggressive. His tongue worked me even quicker. I came. And then came again.

How many more times could I come? I lost track. I jerked on his cock, barely able told myself off the bed. My left wrist ached supporting myself on the bed while my right was jerking him off into my breasts which were snuggling around his cock. I could barely maintain my position keeping my body from collapsing onto him in pleasure.

My whole body felt pleasure from jerking him off and feeling his pleasure repeated in tongue. His hands wandered around my ass and hips. Then he changed tactics.

His fingers pulled apart my ass cheeks and his tongue wandered up to my asshole. His tongue dragged my cum up and swirled around me hot and wet. My surprised was echoed in a loud moan, and then softened by complete surrender to this new pleasure.

He paused only to make the quick comment, "Oh, you're asshole tastes so good.... yes, keep going baby! Mmm..." All I could do was bow my head and moan into his body. His cock was almost swallowed by my breasts and my hand was struggling to move through the heavy masses. My left wrist was abandoned for my elbow as my strength was almost entirely lost.

He licked and flicked my asshole with his tongue - and then I came. Hard. I screamed into hip and I felt my asshole pucker as he continued to lick at it while my hips bucked against him.

When I calmed, he asked, "Did you just orgasm?" in disbelief. Neither of us expected that. All I could do was moan affirmatively in response.

And then he licked at me again. More. I came three more times from his tongue licking my ass. He kissed me but when he flicked across my pucker and even prodded me with his tongue, I came so hard. He came while I screamed through my third orgasm, the extreme pleasure forcing my hand in swift, hard movements on his cock until he exploded on to my breasts.

I lay panting on the bed, satisfied for the moment. I had never had an orgasm from anal pleasure. He says he had given me a rim job before today, but I don't remember it. If it did happen, it was nothing like what had just happened to me. It felt like I had seen starts and felt them spread through my entire body.

He said my asshole tasted sweet.

The next night, we did it all over again and I came 10 times.

TMI Tuesday: Comfort and Thrill of Sex

1. How do you feel about giving anal sex (penetration with penis, finger or sex toys)?

a. I love it.

b. I enjoy it.

c. I’m ok with it.

d. I don’t really enjoy it.

e. I don’t enjoy it at all.

f. I have never given anal sex.

g. I have never given anal sex, but would like to start.

My answer: A. I love to fuck with boyfriend with my fingers or toys! If I had a dick, I'd fuck him with it, too. I love to do it face-to-face so I can watch his pleasure and judge how I need to go with my angle and pace.

His answer: A. (When I asked him, I hadn't even finished asking "Do you love it?" when he answered "Fuck yeah!" with eyes lit up.)

 

2. How do you feel about receiving anal sex (penetration with penis, finger or sex toys)?

a. I love it.

b. I enjoy it.

c. I’m ok with it.

d. I don’t enjoy it at all.

e. I have never received anal sex.

f. I have never received anal sex, but would like to start.

My answer: B. I would add that while I enjoy anal sex, I am not always in the mood for it and its rarely on top of my list. Now if you're going to lick my asshole, I'm up for that any time. ANY TIME.

His answer: A. He loves it, loves it, loves it. He'll take it anyday I think.

3. How do you feel about getting undressed in front of a new lover, for the first time, as he/she watches you?

a. It’s a turn on for me.

b. It turns me on a little bit.

c. I like it, but only because it gets him/her going.

d. It does nothing for me.

e. I don’t like doing it because I am shy.

f. I don’t like doing it because I think it’s immoral/improper.

My answer: This was a hard one for me. I've only had 2 lovers. The first one the undressing happened VERY slowly over almost 2 years. With my BF, I undressed for him on webcam before I did it in person. Both times I felt self conscious and shy, but his response turned me on. I undressed very quickly when we met in person and he did the same. I think we were alreayd so turned on the act of undressing didn't do it so much.

His answer: A again. He says it definitely turns him on, and all the time, not just the first time.

4. Do you express your sexual pleasure with moans, groans, sighs, and other noises (provided that you are actually turned on)?

a. Yes, each time I have sex (90-100% of the time).

b. Yes, on most occasions (70-89% of the time).

c. Yes, on some occasions (40-69% of the time).

d. Yes, on a few occasions (10-39% of the time).

e. Yes, but only on special occasions (1-9% of the time).

f. Never, not even when I am really turned on.

My answer: A, all the time. I cannot stifle my vocal expression of pleasure. I've managed to do this only once or twice and it was super difficult.

His answer: A. I am so happy to be with a partner who has no voicing his pleasure. Now he calls out my name when he masturbates next to me and that is one of the best sounds in the world.

5. Do you talk to your partner in a sexually explicit way?

a. Talking dirty is one of our favorite activities.

b. Occasionally, I like to talk dirty with my partner, and I do it with ease.

c. I talk dirty with my partner, but it feels awkward.

d. I would like to talk dirty with my partner, but I don’t dare for fear of being judged or ridiculed.

e. I would like to talk dirty with my partner, but she/he isn’t into it.

f. I don’t talk in such a way because I think it is inappropriate.

g. I don’t talk in such a way because I can’t bring myself to do it.

Our answer: B. We talk dirty all the time. Our second language is innuendo. Is it one of our favorite activities? I'm going to say no just because we DO talk about a lot more than just sex. We've been living together for a year and communication and being on the same page is one of our highest priorities. So by default B.

6. What kind of animal do you most sound like when building to a climax?

a. quiet little mouse

b. low moaning wolf

c. screeching beluga whale

My answer: I am a C. If B had read "Howling at the moon wolf" then that would have worked. What can I say? If you're with me, you'll know if I am enjoying myself.

His answer: He had no clue, so I selected B for him. He's nowhere near me in terms of loudness, and his vocalisations are more quiet than loud.

Bonus: Which do you prefer comfort sex or thrill-seeking sex? Why?

Comfort seekers value deep intimacy, quiet engagement and trust over time of familiar relationships. For them sex is best as a safe, loving nurturing space.*
Thrill seekers value wild energy, adventure and novelty; they are willing to try open relationships, testing themselves outside average sexual practices. These folks crave a place to push the boundaries of new experiences.*

I'd say I'm a comfort-thrill seeker. I want to build deep intimacy with novelty and pushing the limits. Yes we have discussed open relationships and we are definitely not "average" in our sexual experience, but that does not mean I'm giving up sex as a "safe, loving and nurturing space." I'd say I am currently experiencing both and I love that.

*Adapted from Susan Mernit’s blog

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A look at our sex toy collection

Separately, we had both started collecting sex toys. However, neither of us had much of a collection. We started buying toys together before we even met in person. Now you get to see full details below.

Innocent cabinet

Ta-Da!

Our innocent cabinet that matches other bedroom furniture turns into....
















OK, let's dive in, shall we? I've linked to blog references to these toys and, for some, where you can buy them yourself. You're welcome!

 Top Shelf - Bondage

 1. Handcuffs with velcro adjustments & fake metal (read: plastic) chain). We bought these in a local sex shop early in our relationship. We liked the chain in between the cuffs, but found it was so cheap we really didn't trust the links against our real struggling.

2. Japanese Rope handcuffs: This was given to me as a wedding present from my best friend. The rope is super soft and actually luxurious feeling. My ex wouldn't touch it. I've used these to bind the BF to the bed sitting up to watch me masturbate.

3. Metal handcuffs: These were from the BF that he brought with him. They do click into place well; we don't have a key for them. There isn't much of a chain between them and I think we've only used them once. The metal kind of hurts and is distracting to us during sex, which is why we bought the cuffs in #1.

4. Velcro handcuffs: Another set from the BF that he brought with him. These have a plastic clip that can clip them together or, if you have the equipment, connect to some longer straps. We don't have those. One cuff has printed "Don't" and the other "Stop" on them. These are fine, but we don't really like them very much.

5/6. Because its so visible in the background, the black pouch and purple below it are storage items for other toys shown further in the list...

2nd shelf - Clit Vibes

7. Vibrating Clit pump. Oh, the famous clit pump!

8. Fun Factory's Layaspot: I purchased this as a clitoral/full exterior pussy vibrator during my sexual frustrated years... and this toy was equally frustrating. But I haven't thrown it out. I'm hopful I can turn it in to something fun.

9. Pipedream vibrator: This little vibe actually goes with a glass dildo further down on the list. The vibe is very strong and has some great vibe patterns, but it gets hot quickly. It's a backup should my trusty bullet vibe break (again!) on me.

10. Bullet vibe: This vibe is a cheap bullet vibe that you can buy from almost every sex toy shop online under different toy names; they are all obviously the same with different print on them. They range from $9-$15 depending on where you purchase. This is my back-up as my current working one is on my bedside table for easy access. My favorite vibe ever! Bought my first one on my honeymoon, used it about once a year. Now I use it once or twice a week, I think.

11. Rocket Vibe: This vibe is battery whore. Seriously. It will wear out two AA batteries in about 30 minutes. If you're willing to invest in the batteries, this is a super fun toy. It's about 5 inches in length but has the power of my bullet vibe and includes vibration patterns! I've used it in my pussy to practice my kegels and in his ass as a little extra stimulation while I jack him off.

Vibrating dildos/glass

12. The Tantus Echo. I bought this toy a few months ago as a special deal from Tantus (it's listed as a closeout item currently). Anyway, this silicone dildo is awesome because it comes with an 80mm bullet vibe that you can feel through the whole dildo. Plus its ridges are pretty extreme - it's like 5 or 6 penis heads entering/exiting your body with each full thrust. This dildo stretches me out and makes my BF accuse me of having an extra slutty pussy.

13. Random vibrating dildo. I remember I bought this dildo from Babeland during my frustrated years of sex, but I've barely used it (and I can't find it on their website anymore). There's nothing wrong with it, but its just not super exciting to me. I keep it because when I want a vibe with some slight waves for gripping with my pussy, this is it. Oh, and it vibrates.

14. Pipedreams Icicle dildo #16. This is my first glass dildo and there is a review coming on it. I love glass, and this toy is awesome. It's very popular for our G-spot/try to make me squirt play, such as the time he tied me up and just made me scream and scream.

15. Babeland Orchid G: I bought this toy along with Violet Blue's book The Smart Girl's Guide to the G-Spot as a kit from Babeland when I first discovered squirting and decided I wanted to try it myself. I had no sucess on my own with this item -- until this week. I tried masturbating with this item and my hitachi to squirt. I got very close, but ended up squirting with my hitachi alone after I had given up on it happening at all. So I think this toy has redeemed itself after 5 years, its now a keeper.

16. Butterfly Kiss vibe: This is my first vibrator that was designed to target G-spot and clit. I started using this shortly before the BF entered my life. I used it all the time on cam with him during skype, showing off a bit of my oral skills. This is the toy that he coached me into having multiple orgasms with. Now that my pussy has been stretched out a bit, this toy really doesn't do much for me anymore.

17. OK, I admit. I have one jelly toy. In my defense, it came free with another toy order. I've not used it. BUT, it's a rabbit vibe - which I've never tried - and I really want to cover it with a condom and just try it one day. And then toss it.

Anal play & couples toys

18. Tantus Charmer dildo. Another purchase via a Tantus special, this is a great toy for anal and G-spot play. The ridges are much less intense than the Echo dildo/vibe so we both use this toy and I love to peg him with it.

19. The Siren dildo. Our second dildo purchase together, this is our favorite pegging dildo. It's pretty big and I can get his P-spot so good with it. It's also the one he uses when he fucks himself against the bathroom wall and sends me naughty pictures of it. This is our largest dildo, but I think we're ready for an upgrade in size. When he fucks my vagina with it, he loves to dirty talk at how loose it makes me.

20. Spareparts Joque harness. This is our only harness and we love it. I selected it because it was adjustable in so many ways and unlike so many other harnesses out there, it is machine washable! The harness parts wrap around your waist and and legs, leaving your ass completely free and open. It's also available in a larger size for us "plus size" women, so I don't feel squeezed into it.

21. Tantus Silk dildo - small. This was our first dildo purchase and we got it to go with the harness. Its funny, you never know how small something is until you see it and we were both a little disappointed at this size. He really wanted something larger. However, this is the toy we use for DP when he fucks my pussy and then fucks my ass with this. It's a great size for that and I feel very comfortable with it.

22. Crystal Delights glass butt plug. We have a pink crystal in the end of this toy. I won this on twitter to my absolutely delight and received it about a day before we moved - so we haven't used it yet. Stay tuned.

23. Condoms. We only use condoms when I'm on antibiotics which interfere with my birth control pill. Otherwise we dislike the condom route. I keep these on hand for emergencies or when I have a toy we want to use anally but it isn't made of silicone or if its not flared at the bottom (like the rocket vibe) and I need to hold onto something more than the end of the toy.

24. Pop Plug / Plug of Lust (small): I won this toy on twitter before I even had a sex blog - my first sex toy win! We love this anal plug. It kind of reminds me of a pacifier and it does kind of "pop" into your ass. We've both worn this plug in preparation for anal sex. We love it.

25. Pop Plug / Plug of Lust (large): While #24 came from Babeland, this one came from Eden Fantasy's. To me, they look identical aside from the color. It certainly is large compared to the small, and only the BF has used it so far. He loves it. I've plugged him with it, and then held the hitachi to his ass for it.

26/27. Vibrating cock rings. I've purchase both of these from Babeland. The first was an attempt to entice my terrible married sex life (one of many) and I ended up not liking the toy; it wasn't strong enough. The other cock ring is made of silicone and could hit my clit just right. however, the BF didn't like it and found the vibes so distracting he went limp. So... I'm not sure what I'll do with these.

28. Pink Silk gloves. We bought these on our date night in May. The BF has always wanted me to stroke him with silk gloves. I made him orgasm just from stroking his body with these gloves. He just loves them. He's also used them on me.

29. Blindfold. These came with our restraints we purchased (also on our date night). We don't blindfold often, and when we have we've used my silk scarves for it.

Spanking & Large toys

30. Drac Fleshlight. We got him this vampire-inspired fleshlight around Christmas for his and my joint fun. We've both used this toy, and he tends to use it while sitting on twitter talking to me or looking through tumblr during his morning masturbation. I like to pretend to eat this pussy before he uses it if I'm around. Oh, and the material makes me totally jealous I don't have a dick myself.

31. Riding crop. Another date night purchase, this toy has been used quite a bit in the short time we've owned it. I've spanked his ass and he's spanked my ass and clit with this toy. We love the reach with it, and yet we love how close you can be and still use it effectively.

32. SLUT paddle. Ooh our spanking paddle. We love this. I use it to administer swift spanks to him when he's naughty around the house.

Not pictured:

33. Mr. Hitachi, who is always plugged in next to my side of the bed awaiting use.

34. Our bed restraints, which will be featured in the near future in a post of its own. We don't take them off the bed unless we have really good reason to. 

35. Pandora vibe, an excellent prostate vibrator just for him. It's currently packed somewhere and hasn't been unpacked  yet.

36. Smartballs Teneo uno - A single kegel exercise ball that is also packed somewhere still. I love to wear it, when I remove it after a couple of hours its normally covered in cum as if I've had an orgasm. I normally have the BF lick it clean, although I do take part in that sometimes as well.

Update on our "No sex pact"

As we've announced on twitter, we are closing on our first home this coming week. This has been in the works for several months and we could not be more excited that it's coming to an end.  We have been talking for a while about celebrating this awesome milestone, but how?

I know there are some things we've been waiting to experience together in the new home, like him dominating me or him tying me up and really letting me have it. He won't do either of those now because he needs me to be able to scream without alerting the neighbors. But those are thing that will not happen right away.

One day when we were talking about how my pussy has changed he joked about not having sex for a while to see if that made a difference. Of course when he says this we both end up laughing, there's no way we could just withhold sex for months... but what about weeks? I don't remember how the conversation went, but someone suggested not having sex until we were officially moved into the house, and the other agreed.

What we didn't consider was that moving day was 23 days away.

As of this post, we are on day 12. Twelve days without penis-in-vagina sex.

It's not a dry spell, as we are both horny and wanton. In fact, we are even more horny as a result. We are indulging in everything else. The past twelve days have included anal sex, handjobs, toys, and tons of oral.

In a way, our sex life has never been so hot.

We've never been so on fire for each other. When I get home from work we are immediately in the bedroom making out and sucking on each other. And then at bedtime we want more.

I've noticed a few things from this. First, he's become more generous in wanting me to not have just an orgasm or two, but 5, 8, 10, or more. He may give me a few, and when I'm doing satisfying him he wants to give more. And then I give more back.

We are more desperate to be with each other. We can't stand to be apart while I'm at work. During our couch cuddle time in the evening we are now naked and he is laying on my body, feeling me up a bit before bedtime.

We are fighting more. I think our passion for each other is closer to the surface, but that means it's easier to trigger some stupid argument. We fight passionately over stupid stuff, then all of a sudden it dissipates and we end up just holding each other.

So, is it worth it? So far, I think so. Call it an experiment in sex. An experiment in our relationship. Since we've been together, we've only abstained from PIV sex for three days. And it was a very long three days. When it ended, we had three very hot, explosive rounds of sex in a hotel room.  I can only imagine that, if three days resulted in that kind of reaction, what would three weeks do?

So we're looking forward to the date with a LOT of anticipation. It will be an awesome, amazing night. And in the meantime, we are rediscovering and just enjoying all the ways we give handjobs, oral sex, cuddling, and masturbation. Oh, lots of masturbation.

So here we are, on fire for each other, denying ourselves for a purpose. It's hot, driving us wild, and we are loving and hating every moment of it.

Sometimes, real life interrupts

It shouldn't surprise you to know that life does interrupt our sex life at times. We may make plans and they may go completely awry. Not everything is amazing, incredible, gorgeous, hot sex.

By now, we've had a variety of these experiences. Sometimes we plan to have sex, and then we're too tired. Or he's going to eat me out, but my period starts a day early. Sometimes we try a new position, and we don't like it. Or he fucks me too hard during the afternoon that I don't want anything in my vagina that night. Sometimes we plan to peg, and he doesn't want to when the time comes. Occasionally, we get distracted by another activity and just go with the flow. My hands feel that good on your cock? Well look who's getting a hand job tonight!

Wednesday night, we were planning on pegging him. We took a shower and I plugged him up. We went to the couch and watched TV and then got ready for bed. I got out a new dildo we hadn't used yet - I planned to hand fuck him then use the hitachi on the base while it was in him.

I slid the dildo in. It's our first one that had little ridges on it. He didn't like it; it wasn't all the way in until he told me to take it out. It was uncomfortable. I removed it and set it aside. I reached for another dildo, the Siren we normally use, but he said no. He went to the bathroom to clean up.

When he returned, I was sitting there, unsure what to do. He returned the same look. So... normal sex? We both agreed, yes.

We kissed and started playing with ourselves. I was still wet from my earlier hitachi use... I played with the wet, making sloshing noises as loudly as I could, at his request. I played with my vagina entrance to get the loudest sound. He bit his lip in excitement, watching me. He kissed up my body from knee to lips while I did this, jacking off his dick. It made me giggly, and turned me on.

After a final kiss, he moved to position himself between my legs. I opened wide for him.... then realized I had a pillow under my shoulders. I prefer to fuck flat on my back. I reached behind me to pull it out and throw it to the side - and the movement made me fart. On him.

Horror! We exchanged a very brief look, his face amused, mine shocked. "Did you just fart?"

Oh gosh. I hid my face under the pillow. He was laughing, I was laughing. My whole body was shaking as I buried my head in shame. I nodded yes, not that he needed confirmation. He wanted me to come out from under the pillow. I shook my head no.

We burst into more laughter. I could not help but recognize the irony. Here I am, sex blogger who professes to be sex positive and I pride myself on realizing that stuff like this happens. This isn't the first time I've accidentally farted during sex, but it was the first time with him. And in some ways, I'm very much a girly-girl and I personally don't like farts at all. I recognize they're normal, but I prefer to think they don't happen. And that I don't let them happen ON him when we're about to have SEX.

He let me have a few moments to compose myself. When I didn't come out, he commented that he bet I was red as a beet... which resulted in another round of laughter for us. I said I didn't want to come out, I was too embarrassed. He didn't push me or rush me.

He sat back between my feet and started jacking off again. "Guess I'll have to take care of myself then," he said, trying to get me to come out from my hiding spot. I said that was fine with me.

But then I started listening to the sound... and I realized my feet were in close proximity to his body. I ran a right foot tentatively up his chest. I couldn't see anything, so I went by feel. I wandered up his body again, this time feeling for his face. I found his neck and ran up to his face. His lips found my toes, his free hand guided my foot around his mouth. He kissed my toes, the bottom of my feet.

I ran my foot back down his body and back up. I scrunched my toes around his nose. His tongue licked the arch of my foot, then he started flicking in between my toes. His tongue was strong, warm, and wet. It felt so good and turned me on. He moaned lightly as he kissed my feet. I scrunched my toes again and he sighed. He loves it when I grip his face.

He moaned and then said something completely unexpected: "This reminds me of how I got off the other day."

"What?" I could not remember doing anything with my feet this week.

"Yeah... I jacked off sniffing your shoes... oh I came so good."

"What!?!?!" Another revelation. He's never expressed interested in smelling my shoes. I knew it was interesting to some foot fetish guys, but he's never said or shown anything. And then I needed to know, "Which shoes?"

"The purple ones... your flats." Oh, so my favorite pair of shoes... my 2-year old purple suede Nine West shoes that I've worn at least 50% of the time the past two years.

"Show me?" I wanted to see it. He agreed. Out I came from under my pillow and off to find my shoes. I retrieved them and gave them both to him. He took one in his free hand, kept his dick in the other, and took a deep, long sniff into it. I watched, so curious and fascinated.

His eyes rolled back in pleasure. "Baby, your feet are so very sexy. I love how sexy your feet are." Another sniff and his body started to lean back away from me. I placed my feet near his balls, and scrunched his testicles with my toes. His body visibly tensed. Another sniff. His jacking off motion was slower now. He didn't need that much stimulation. A final sniff and he was cumming. Hard. My feet continued to scrunch at his balls. His body trembled as cum poured from his cock.

And then we went to bed, me cuddling to his chest in his arms. The night wasn't anything like we expected or planned. We recovered and took it to something beautiful. And that is real world sex.

Pegging in cowgirl

I normally suggest pegging him more often than we do it. I love to fuck him, I really do. But its his butt, and he doesn't always want to have our big dildo up it. My boyfriend is kind of a size queen. We fuck with the Siren Dildo (see our review here)... its a girthy dildo. But that's what he likes.

So last night, he's wearing a hot pink thong. We're playing video games, and I realize its already getting late. I tell him to pause, he needs a plug. Into the bedroom we went and he was giggling slightly. I pulled out the plug, rinsed it off in warm water, and covered it in lube. I turned around, and he was on the bed on all fours, ass in the air with legs spread. I spanked him for being so eager, he blushed a little but didn't move.

I quickly but gently slid the plug in him. He gasped when it was its widest, and then sighed happily when it was all the way in. Back on went the panties, and he almost pranced back to his computer chair. Fast forward an hour or so, and he comes over to my desk, slightly tugging on the ring at the end of the plug. It was turning him on. I turned him around, moved the string of his thong away, and wiggled it. It He moaned. My bullet vibe was sitting on my desk, and I held it up to the plug turning it on a little bit. His eyes opened in surprise then closed in pleasure. I played with the vibrations more, and his dick started growing into its hardened form. I spanked him again, and sent him back to his desk.

Pink plug in his butt

Another hour or so, its very late. I tell him its time, I want to fuck him now. I ask him to try riding me. We've tried once before, but he hadn't been plugged and it was too much to just sit down on to. I pulled on my harness with the dildo ready for him. I lubed it up and laid down, excited. He tried to insert it, but it was too big to just take in. We rearranged, him on his back, me kneeling in front of him.

I slid it into him gently. We looked into each other's eyes as I slide into him, his legs curled over mine. Once in, I pushed slowly in. When I reached as far in as I could, he moaned in contentment. Yes, my size queen he is. I started to fuck him slowly. I got the angle wrong - and it slid out, the head making a sucking noise as it popped out of him. It hurt him a little, I repositioned and got the angle right this time, fucking him slowly. He was jacking off his dick, hard as I slid in and out of him. His legs began to curl up and I ran my hands softly up and down his legs. "Take my dick, oh good take it." His eyes were open, focused on me as slowly fucked him. I was kneeling back on my feet slightly, watching my own hips move back and forth.

He had me swing my lips forward to sit on the bed. I did this carefully, making sure I didn't remove my dildo from his ass. He sat up, moving his body toward me, we kissed with him sitting on my legs. It was close, intimate. He pushed my back and now I was lying down, and he was sitting on me in cowgirl, the dildo in him all the way. His feet were planted on the bed, and I pulled his arm toward me to adjust the angle.

He started bouncing lightly up and down, the look on his face one of surprise and delight. A brand new sensation of riding a dick. A minute passed and he was gripping the footboard helping him to balance. He admitted it was more tiring than he expected. I laughed, and told him to get on his knees rather than his feet. He readjusted, and now was grinding on me, dildo in his ass. I lubed up a hand and started jacking off his dick very slowly.

His face was furrowed in erotic concentration. He couldn't keep his eyes open, they were closed in enjoyment. "Yes my slut," I encouraged him. "Ride that dick, show me how much you like it." He started to ride me faster, and I let his movements jack himself off in my now steady hand. He had to hold onto the bed to keep going, it was intense. He sat upright, supporting himself with his hands on my thighs as he rode . Moans escaped his mouth as he rode me.

He was lost in the moment, and I realized why he loves it when I ride him - what a beautiful site it is, your lover riding your dick, body moving freely, showing you all their pleasure for you to watch, to touch. You can see their whole body moving in pleasure on you. With you in them. My hand is still on his dick, jacking him off at a slow pace.

"You are so beautiful," I quietly say, my awe of this beautiful site showing in my voice. He smiles shyly, and looks at me for the first time in minutes. "You are." I say again. "So sexy on me like this." He is overcome with emotion of the moment and the sensations, and he starts to cum, spurting his warm white cum on my hand and stomach. He spends the final moments grinding on the dildo, all in his ass, gripping the bed to stay upright.

When he gets up, his legs are shaky. Riding me was a lot harder and more physical than he expected, he had no idea it could be so much work. I laugh, loving that he can appreciate it when I tell him how I'm too tired to ride him at times.

We shower, and spend time kissing and hugging each other. I ask what he liked about being called beautiful, and I get more shy, cute smiles. He's truly bashful, and won't explain it. I comment that I wish I had a real dick, so I could better judge where I'm at in him. Having a dildo as your dick feels limiting, I'd rather feel it while I'm fucking him. The thought of me with a dick makes him bite his lip and almost shiver with excitement. He loves the idea, he can't imagine how wonderful it would be.

Bathtub roleplay

The day had been filled of sex, board games, TV, sex, napping, and us together some more.  We were having an all-night video game/together night. About 2a we decided to take a break from the computer and take a bath together. Our first candle-lit bath.

The candles are lit. Four of them around the tub, three others on the toilet and sink. The lights are off. The tub is full of warm water just the right temperature. We take a look at each other, he climbs in. I follow, sitting in the back, wrapping my legs around him. He leans back into me, and my arms slide down his chest, head bowed against his neck. My breasts press into his back.

Peace. Stillness. Quiet. Its just us, our bodies, together. I breathe for a few moments, eyes closed, holding him.

I run my hands up and down his chest and lean back as he leans into me. We commiserate over how our plan for bubbles has failed without a bubble in sight. Oh well. Another time we'll try.

His hands are wandering, and he lightly caresses my toes in the water near his leg. He tickles them so gently, we're barely touching. His other hand is lightly touching his dick, floating in the water yet pointing up at him. I reach down, and realize he's semi-hard.

He hears my gasp of surprise (made louder to make sure he heard, of course) and lays his head on one of my arms wrapped around him. The hand that was on his dick sinks lower into the water, and his arm starts making a movement... I catch the significance of the motion.

"Are you fingering yourself?"

He gives me a coy look with a mischievous grin. "Maybe."

"Naughty boy! You can't do that in here!" But he starts finger fucking himself as much as he can from this position. A few seconds and I reach down again - this time, his dick is hard.  "You naughty boy fingering yourself, now you're hard... you really want dick in that ass don't you?"

He moans, hand reaching up to start stroking his cock. "Yes I doooo," he moans to me gently. The sound of his jacking off semi-submerged in water is a new and beautiful sound. Its now visual and very audible - and I have a great view.

"It was that twitter conversation, wasn't it?" I ask. "You want someone to be your little dick slut, don't you?"

"Yes..." he breathes. "But I want his dick in my mouth. Ohhhh." His hand is jerking pretty strong, and its making little waves in the tub.  I start pinching his nipples.

"Oh, so you'd rather drink his cum?"

"Yes. I want his cum in my mouth, hot down my throat." He can hardly get the words out. I start pinching harder, pulling on them.

I whisper in his ear, "I'll watch you drink his cum, you cum slut. Watch you drink it and what you get fucked and be his little man bitch like I know you want." I start tugging to hurt his nipples, which only turns him on more.

"Ohhh yes... "

"I want to see that dick go in your mouth, want you to choke on it you dick slut. Take it in and suck it like. I'm going to tell you to suck it so I can see how much you enjoy it."

"Ohh give me your dick," he moans to the invisible man. I am now the third party, tugging at his nipples and egging him on. I'm OK with that, because one day, I'd like this fantasy to be reality. I look forward to it. I pinch his nipples, and wiggle them in tiny vibrations.

"Take his dick in your ass you dirty man bitch," I tell him. The sensations of my words and nipples make him moan, but he's talking to the invisible man.

"Oh I want your cum, please cum in my mouth... yes, please cum in my mouth. I want your hot cum in my mouth. Yes I'll swallow all of it... please, oh please, I need your dick in my mouth." His hand is making swift jerking movements and I can see his dick is huge and rock hard, yearning for that release of orgasm. I pull and pinch and tug on him.

"You can have his cum, but he still gets to fuck you," I whisper again. "Will you let him fuck you?"

"Oh yes, oh yes, I'll suck him off and then he can fuck me."

"Let him use your ass however he wants?"

"Oh yes... let him cum in my ass. Oh please cum in my ass! I want to feel you cum in me. Fuck me fuck me fuck me fuck me PLEASE FUCK ME." And he growls as he cums, his body trembling against me.

He cums on his hands, and he pauses a moment before licking it off. I hug him close and he collapses even more into my breasts.

One day....

Formspring Friday: Enjoying anal sex

Q. Do you enjoy anal sex?
I'm going to answer this in term of receiving and giving (even though I'm pretty sure you're only talking about receiving). My short answer is: yes. And yes.

I've done anal sex a few times. The first time, I did not enjoy it. We went too fast, we didn't start small and then work up to his dick, we just started dick in. It hurt and I was sore the next couple of days.

Then I did some research, and next time we went slower, and eased into it. It was easier, and this time it did feel good, different good. I didn't get off on it, but I enjoyed it. Another time, I used my bullet vibe on my clip and was able to cum - and WOW, a whole new level of orgasm.

Another way I've enjoyed anal is having the BF's dick in my pussy, and a slim silicone dildo in my ass that he fucks me with. That felt amazingly good!

As for giving, yes, I love to peg my BF with a dildo. If you've followed my blog at all, you've seen that in this post about our favorite dildo.

Want to ask me a question? Just head to formspring.me/billikesscifi and ask anything you want. Really. Anything. Try me. I'll answer the following Friday.

My BF's sexy butt

My boyfriend is incredibly sexy. I love every part of his body... He has "popeye" arms that are very muscular in the forearm and bicep/triceps, nice strong shoulders. He's slender without being super skinny. His hands are strong, manly, and muscular.

But let's just cut to the chase here: he as an ass that is AMAZING. It's not quite a booty butt, but damn is it delicious. There's definitely no question of "Where's his butt?" or even joking about him not having one. It's there, and its perfect.

All in all, I'd call it fuckable. Because that's exactly what it is. A loveable, squeeze-it-in-your-hands, spank-it-til-its-red, kiss it, lick it, all out just fuckable kind of butt. And it's MINE to play with... whenever I want.

Damn, I'm lucky.

Review: Siren Dildo

The Toy
I've owned the Siren Dildo for about six months. I bought it online from Babeland to pair with a harness that I had purchased last year. The BF and I wanted this dildo to use primarily with the harness to peg him. We chose this dildo for two primary reasons. First, its 100% silicone and therefore easy to sanitize after use. Second, its shape is designed to hit the G- or P-spot. We purchased the purple color to match the harness.

The dildo arrived on time and looked exactly as the picture on the website. It has a nice curve to it, with a defined head. It flares toward the base where it has the widest girth. The base of this toy is flat so it can sit upright, however the curve and head make it a little top heavy toy so keeping it upright is difficult.

We sanitized it by boiling it in water for about 5 minutes, then set it aside for later. Before use, we recommend rinsing it off as silicone tends to attract dust like crazy.  If you need to use lube with this, make sure you use a water-based lube.

The Sex (for him)
We use this toy on him in 3 different ways. Most of the time, we use this dildo in the harness for pegging him. It fits easily in my harness and stays secure in there. I lube it up with a water-based lube and gently enter the BF with it. (Normally, prior to pegging him, we start with some fingers or a butt plug to help loosen him up and get him ready for this dildo). Starting out, I position the head so it will hit his P-spot regardless of the position we're in. (The P-spot is in a similar location to the G-spot but a bit further into the anus).

When using this with the harness, I've fucked him in doggie style and missionary. My favorite position to use this is with him on his back and me kneeling in front of him. In this position I can have access to his dick and balls and control his legs. The best orgasm I've ever given him was in this position. I start out with slow, shallow thrusts. I let the dildo slowly work its way. It doesn't take long before I'm thrusting as far as I can into him with this. The dildo's widened base makes it perfect for anal play. The BF loves the feeling of fucking all the way in and out, just keeping the head in him. Normally I'll lube up one hand and then jack off his dick, using my free hand to hold onto him or let my hands roam. Sometimes I'll use my hands to grab around his legs to pull him toward me, matching my pulls with my thrusts. The best way to reach his p-spot is to push his legs up toward his shoulder, pressing his legs down. At this angle I can get him just right, so much so that I can make him cum without any dick stimulation... its the most cum I've ever seen shoot from his cock at once, and the longest, strongest orgasm I've seen him experience.

Because this dildo has a flat base, using it up against a wall for support is pretty easy. One day at work, the BF sent me a picture of him standing up against the wall, dildo in his ass, hard cock in his other hand, jacking off and watching himself in the mirror. I was so incredibly turned on - it had never occurred to me to use the toy this way. The base can almost suction itself to the wall so that he can fuck himself on it while jacking on.


After I got that photo (which I still have in my phone and look at occasionally while at work), I asked him to do it again, but let me suck him off while he fucked himself on the dildo. He willingly obliged me. He lubed up the dildo and inserted it himself, getting it positioned against the wall. I kneeled down and sucked his cock into my mouth, I let him fuck against the dildo and followed his body with my head, not letting him out of my mouth. I ran my hands up and down his body while I sucked, up to his chest, down to his ass, and down his legs. I sucked him, playing with his cock. His legs trembled, he could barely keep himself standing while I sucked at him. In the end, it became too much stimulation and he focused on the blow job rather than the dildo in his ass.

The Sex (for her)
To use this dildo on me, I need a lot of lubrication (preferably via an orgasm prior to dildo insertion) and some work up to taking it. The first time I used this dick, we tried fisting. He got about 4 fingers in me before I decided I wasn't ready for the full fist. Since I was so stretched out, we pulled out this dildo and he started fucking me with it. Four fingers is definitely wider than this dildo, but it still felt like it filled me. With a little clit stimulation, I was orgasming in very little time.

The second time we used this dildo was earlier today. This time I did cum first - from oral sex courtesy of the BF's amazing mouth. (If you don't follow me on twitter, you're missing out on the hotness.) After cumming, he worked the dildo in me with very little effort since I was already so wet. I couldn't take this dildo all the way in, but I'd say I took about 4.5 inches before it felt too big for more. The BF was able to manipulate the head against my G-spot easily. He fucked me with it and it felt good. My favorite move is when he wiggled it in me, creating almost like a vibration-like feeling. He didn't use it on me long enough to get off this time, but I'm sure that I could have pretty easily.

The Judgement
Overall, I'd give this toy a 5/5. It hits the BF's P-spot so well and every time without fail. I love using it on him - and he really enjoys using it on himself. Its the perfect size for him - big enough to give him that full, fucked feeling, hit the right spot, without being too big.  This I think is one of our favorite toys to use on him. I enjoy this toy as well, but I honestly prefer the BF's dick at this time.

The firsts we've shared... so far

What makes our sex life so great? Variety! There's so much sex and kink in our lives, sometimes we're not sure what to do... some things are more favorite than others, but we do like to play. A lot.

Here are some firsts we've enjoyed:

1. Multiple orgasms. Believe it or not, before the BF I never enjoyed the awesomeness of cumming again and again. Before, I was only able to cum once at a time, and normally my clit would get so sensitive I couldn't come again for at least 24 hours. The first time I was able to multiple orgasm was having phone sex with the BF. Then we moved to skype where he would encourage me to keep going and how to keep going with my fingers/dildo/vibrator -- and I would cum 6-8 times each skype call. Hello new world!

2. Strap-on/Pegging. Before we met in person, we talked about what we liked and wanted to do. Top of the BF's list was being fucked with a dildo... so when we made plans to meet in person, we purchased a dildo and harness to use. We were both so excited - I've always wanted to fuck a guy and he's always wanted to be pegged. The dildo we got was HUGE -- but we used a lot of lube, talked, and yes I fucked him about a week after we met in person. Since that time, we've used that dildo in a variety of ways and I've been able to fuck him so good - he's cum just from me hitting that p-spot with no hands on his dick. I've never seen him cum so hard...

3. Rimming. Two firsts for me here - I've licked his asshole and I've had mine licked. I like to lick his while he's on his back so I can look him in the eyes while I'm doing it.

4. Anal sex. First for me... the first time we went to fast and it hurt quite a bit. I really didn't enjoy it. We talked and I researched and we tried again, and yes, it gets better!

5. Double Penetration (DP). Now I've not had 2 cocks in me, but I've had a slim dildo in my ass and him in my vagina... I was on my stomach and he fucked me with the dildo while fucking me. WOW.

6. Feet.  This is a first for me... as you know the BF has a very strong foot fetish. (He notices feet before anything else on a person.)  The first picture he wanted of me (after knowing what I looked like) was of my feet. When we have sex he loves to fuck hard while sucking my toes... it turns us both on so very much. He licks and sucks my toes and feet and the more it happens, the harder he fucks. I've also given him foot jobs - hard work ladies! But he can come just from my feet rubbing him lightly.

7. Watersports. This was a first for both of us. I've always wanted to pee on someone... and when the BF brought up me peeing on him, I was so delighted. By now we've both peed on each other. I really prefer peeing on him... though I'll let him pee on him as I know it turns him on.  Someday soon, I'm gonna pee in his mouth - by his request. And I find that hot.

8. Cumming from oral sex. A first for both of us not in the same way. For me, my ex would never give oral sex, so I never had a chance. The BF loves to eat pussy - and he is pretty damn good at it. Now for my bragging point -- the BF has had a lot more sex in his life prior to me, but he has never cum from a blow job prior to being with me. The first night I tried sucking him off, but couldn't get him to cum. The second try? Yeah, he fucking came. And now he cums every time I suck him off.

9.  Reverse cowgirl. Yeah, never done that before him.

10. Vaginal orgasms. I had never cum from sex prior to the BF... and now he makes me cum all the time from sex... so fucking awesome.

11. Stomach sex. Nope, never tried that either before the BF.

12. Shower sex. Never been able to try that before the BF. First night together he fingered me in the shower and I blew him in there (until the water ran out). Now when we have shower sex its always with me bent over, bracing against the tub edge and wall as he fucks me hard from behind.

13. Sissifying. The BF likes to wear panties and some girls clothing... and he's asked me to paint his finger nails pink. He's shaved his whole body... and you know what? I love it. I love how he can be authentically him. Maybe he's queer, I don't care. Sometimes I call him my slut, my girl, my bad little girl, and it turns him on.

14. Fisting. We celebrated the first "International Fisting Day" by trying fisting for the first time. We didn't quite get a whole fist, but four fingers and part of his thumb. We'll definitely be doing that again sometime soon! I think next time we need more lube and better communication.

There we are... 14 new things we've tried and shared... and there's so much more to do.