Best Saturday of my life

If you haven't seen the big news that popped up over the weekend for us, here it is again:

We're engaged!

This wasn't planned, although if you're a reader of this blog, you can safely assume it hasn't been unexpected. We've always discussed marriage as a goal to this relationship: if we get there. Only 5 months into the relationship, he called me "Mrs ____" during sex, so we started the rule. As we approached our first year anniversary, we took another look at the rule and realized it was still relevant. Just a month or so ago, we realized the rule no longer existed, but things were just "waiting." 

Well, wait over!

We had talked rings and timing briefly -- As in, what I liked and wanted in a ring and if we were ready to really make this official. He's been ready for a while, but I really didn't want to become engaged until it had been a year and a half for us - so, in December or later seemed fine. 

Late last week, while texting me at work, he suggested we have a date night this weekend. We haven't had one in a while - months really - and I was so excited to do it. We planned a dinner and a movie: he could pick the movie and I would pick the restaurant. Now, we live together so we always eat and watch movies together. But we still make special times for dates out where we pay extra attention to what we wear, where we eat, and take a break from life.

Saturday was an excellent day. I woke up feeling very warm arms wrap themselves around me, and light kisses planted on my shoulder. My mind started to wake up and he said, "Morning my love. You are so beautiful, so sexy, so pretty, so smart, and so hardworking. I love you so much." I smiled and nestled back into him, feeling his soft dick fall in between my ass cheeks. He snuggled me and held me close.

We laid there quite a while, switching sides. At some point I flipped over and we shared some kisses before I nestled against his chest and let him kiss my forehead as he held me tight. His hands wandered up my body and I soon felt a hard cock against my thigh. I teased it slightly and started to tease him more. He begged for me to jack him off and I grabbed the lube to comply.

What followed was a hand CBT hand job. I didn't torture his cock unless you count a lot of edging and denying orgasm. My greatest torture was spanking his balls. Spanking, slight squeezing, and then some really hard spanking. It was the slowest motion I've made him cum with  my hand. I'll have to write up those details soon. It deserves its own post.

After his orgasm, I received several excellent orgasms via his fingers on my clit. My favorite part was feeling all of the fingers on his hand running through my very wet pussy. I love how he soaks his fingers in my juices. It's fucking hot to know he'll be smelling me on him all day.

We got up, got dressed, and spent our Saturday as we typically do: video gaming and flirting with each other. During the afternoon, I spent a couple of hours with some of my favorite twitter crushes PlumptiousPea and TisforTMI (both ladies have very hot blogs I recommend them both!) and the nasty men of the Wholesome Addiction podcast recording a special segment for an upcoming show. Two hours of flirting and laughing till my mouth was tired (unusual it gets so tired from laughing -wink wink-).

Needless to say, I was SO turned on from all this girl flirting (I went speechless many times through the recording) as was the BF my fiance (that will take some getting used to!) that we had to go fuck. Immediately. As soon as I stepped away from my mic, he looked at me and said, "Can we PLEASE go fuck now!?"

Off to the bedroom we went, kissing and grabbing at each other. I rode him cowgirl - furiously. Hard. Fast. Needy. He wanted me to make him orgasm and then keep fucking him. So I did. He kissed and sucked on my nipples as I rode him through both of our orgasms and watched his body tremble from pleasure under me. I felt him grow soft a little, so I climbed off and grabbed my Hitachi and masturbated with his hands wandering around my thighs, grabbing and gripping me, as I orgasmed. He was hard again, so I gave him a hand job with a blow job finish.

We still had two hours before our dinner reservation, so we napped holding each other for nearly an hour before getting up and eventually getting ready for our date. (My idea of getting ready was lounging around naked for 45 minutes). With 15 minutes until we had to leave, we both dressed. He dressed in khaki's and his best button down shirt and I dressed in black fishnets, hot pink skirt, and a chunky black sweater. I wore black leather ankle boots that he said were "fucking sexy" on me.

We made it to dinner on time - our first dinner at Benihana. It was my choice for a restaurant; neither of us had ever eaten there, but I knew it would be fun. We were seating with 2 other couples (leaving 2 seats free) so we had plenty of room. One couple kept to themselves, but we chatted somewhat with the other couple at the table.

Dinner was delicious. He kept rubbing my back with his arm. We were both just so fucking happy to have this evening out. It was a beautiful evening together. Dinner was fun and entertaining and we really enjoyed it. When it was over, we had nearly an hour until our movie started just across the street. We decided to drop off our leftovers at the car and then do some mall shopping. 

On our way to the car, he pulled my arm and said, "Hey, wait a moment." I turned, wondering what he could want. It was cold, chilly, and slightly raining. I turned to him and there he was, on one knee, holding up this beautiful ring. I think my mouth dropped open and he said, "Will you marry me?" And then I smothered him.

My ring - white topaz, not a diamond per my request

No really, I did. I grabbed his head and smothered him in my boobs and held him for dear life. At that point, he struggled to stand up and give me a proper hug. The ring was slipped on my finger, and I hugged and kissed him. I almost started crying, but seeing him struggle away from suffocating in my boobs made me laugh too much and too hard to let any tears fall. We spent the next twenty minutes just wandering the mall and decided the movie was not what we wanted tonight. We wanted to just spend time together interacting rather than sitting in a dark theater.

So we drove him, me deliriously happy and he just smiled. And then, true to our roots, we hopped online and told one of our closest gamer friends the good news. And then I started crying. Then I posted the news on facebook and texted my parents (I knew they would be surprised and would need time to digest the news vs a happy call from me). And then I announced the news on twitter. 

Then I took my fiance into the bedroom and said, "I need to attack you!" and I did.

The past 24 hours I've had nothing but congratulations, and kind, lovely words from everyone. It really was the best day.

Wet happy tears

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Pegging a stranger

Occasionally, I browse the "Casual Romance" section of Craigslist. I never find anything worth pursuing, but the fantasy of finding someone and doing something makes me wet.

A couple of weeks ago, I was browsing and came across an ad that I'd never seen before. It was under M4MW and it was a guy in search of a girl to peg him. In return he'd suck the guy's cock and eat the girl's pussy, but he wasn't interested in penetrating either of them.

Intriguing. I've never seen a request for a pegging. It certainly caught my attention. It also didn't include a naked picture, but instead a picture of both his strap-on dicks. His ad included that he had the harness and the toys and would provide them.

I like so much about this ad. A statement of "I want this" and a non-expectation of return penetration. A desire for a couple where the men interacted. Someone prepared with toys so he at least somewhat knew what he was doing. I read the ad aloud to the boyfriend, who responded just as positively as I did. "Email him."

And I did. But I laid our stipulations:
1. I would peg, but that was as far as his/my interaction would go.
2. He could suck my BF's dick and be sucked in return.
3. My BF would eat me out to get me off.
4. It would be in our home on the weekend during the day.
5. I would use my harness but his toys.
When it was over I was all nervous energy. What had I just done? I just invited a third into our sex life!

He replied back agreeing to everything I had laid out. We set a date and time. Then we exchanged vanilla pictures of our faces. Then dick pics. Then the waiting started. I emailed him on a Tuesday but we weren't meeting until Saturday.

Fantasies of the boyfriend sucking dick kept him occupied and horny all week. I was so happy and excited for him. I couldn't wait to see this take place. I knew how much he wanted it and now we would finally share it together.

Friday afternoon, he shaved his whole body, getting all sexy for his hot date.

Saturday morning, I shaved my legs and pussy.

Saturday afternoon, Mr. A arrived.

It was awkward. I suggested we sit and chat for a few minutes just to readdress the boundaries. How much warm-up did he want/need for pegging? What position did he like?

We went to the bedroom. Mr. A went to the bathroom to get ready. The boyfriend was very shy and quiet, but smiling. I was nervous and felt a little out of place in my own home. After all, my part was involved but not the main focus of the event for us.

Mr. A came out of the bathroom fully clothed still. I was standing between them and said, "OK, awkward. Time to get naked everyone..." and just stripped. I was only in a sundress, no bra and panties. I just pulled it off. The men grinned and followed suit.

I pulled on my harness and adjusted it with his dildo of choice. We had agreed he would lie on his back with a pillow under his butt while I pegged him.  I lubed up the toy and asked permission to do the same to him - its only courteous, right? He consented and I wiped a generous amount of lube around his asshole.

He was right, he didn't need a whole lot of warm-up. The toy slid in pretty easily and to aid my efforts, Mr. A pulled his legs up and into the air. After just a few moments he suggested the BF suck his dick, which the boyfriend happily complied after a quick smile at me. I ran a hand through his hair as the BF sucked Mr. A's dick and I slowly fucked away.

Mr. A's dick was about average in length and girth, but this is the first time the BF has ever sucked a dick. I saw him suck hard and pull it into his mouth. I watched his body tense as he fought a gag on this dick. It made me smile to see him working so hard on the other dick, knowing he was loving it. I thought about how much I love to suck my BF's dick.

And soon, Mr. A was jacking off and starting to suck my BF's dick. Mr. A requested that I fuck him harder, so I did, working my hips into him. I held his legs to help give me some help with my rhythm. My BF was distracted by his cock being sucked, so he stopped sucking on Mr. A's for a bit. Mr. A asked for me to pause so he could focus on my BF.

I removed my harness and let the BF eat me out while his dick was being sucked. His attention was obviously elsewhere as it took a while for me to cum. He was moaning into my pussy and flicking his tongue, but he wasn't focusing on his movements at all. I pulled at his hair and told him he was being naughty being so distracted. I kept having to remind him to eat like a good boy. I did orgasm, twice, all the while my BF had his cock sucked by Mr. A.

I sat up and rested my BF's head on my thigh, talking to him quietly. He was on his side, eyes closed, arms around my legs. His legs were wide open, and Mr. A was gagging pretty often on his cock. "You like that, don't you?" He only nodded. "He's a good cocksucker, isn't he? You love having your cock sucked by him!" He moaned into my legs. I ran my fingers through his hair and told him he was a good boy. He was allowed to orgasm into Mr. A's mouth, I know he wanted it. I wanted it to.

And he did.  Mr. A swallowed it and kept my BF's cock in his mouth through the orgasm. Then we both returned our focus to Mr. A. Actually, my BF did. Mr. A wanted his cock sucked more than being pegged, I sat and watched as both voyeur and eye candy. Mr. A was very close to me at this point, and it was not lost on me that his eyes would not stay off my breasts.

I was fine with him looking; I didn't offer him to touch as I didn't want that and he knew there was a boundary there, so he only looked. I told my BF to suck cock... "Yeah, suck that cock you horny boy!" "Don't you just love that cock in your mouth?" "Oh, good boy for choking on that dick!" "Swallow that cock, baby. I want you to choke on it again." "You suck that cock until it cums and you swallow all that cum, baby." "That's my good boy."

Mr. A came shaking in my BF's mouth, who sucked and swallowed and ended with a big smile on his face.

Mr. A got dressed and left fairly quickly. There really wasn't a point in hanging around, I guess.

After he left, I turned to my BF and asked, "Ok, I have to ask -- do I suck better cock?" He smiled at me and rolled his eyes.

"I know you would ask that. And yes, you suck much better cock than him. The only place he wins is that he did it with no teeth at all.... that was awesome."

"Ah... yeah, not sure if I can ever get away from that 100%. I think my mouth's too small for your dick."

"I know, but you still suck better dick."

"Good.... I needed to know."

I finally deep-throated him!

Yes, there is an exclamation point at the end of the title to this entry. It's been 11 months in training, research, and above all, PRACTICE to make it to this point. And Monday night, it finally happened.

I've done a ton of research in learning how to deep throat. I never needed to with my ex - his dick didn't trigger my gag reflex. (To all you men who are in a similar situation - it is a LOT easier for a woman to give you a BJ, so please don't feel bad about that!) But research will get you nowhere without practice.

My first BJ that I gave to the boyfriend did not go so well. I was kneeling in the shower - uncomfortable for me, hard for him to stay standing - and the water went cold on us (making it even harder). I was not used to the size of his dick and a little eager to prove my skills, so I pushed myself too far.

(This is the part of the entry where I say that pre-communication about this moment gave us two things. First, I knew that I wanted to make him orgasm from a BJ since he never had before and I took it as a personal challenge of skill. Second, I knew that if I pushed too far and puked he was OK with that and allowing for that possibility allowed me to truly test my limits. Yes it's not very sexy, but puking, washing it away, and continuing right on as if it didn't happen was so sexy to him... and the fact he didn't go limp and make an excuse to get away from me told me that the act was more sexy than this unintentional consequence. And he had been telling me the truth when we discussed the possibility before it ever happened. SO - communication is KEY!)

 So the first time didn't go so well. The second time I kneeled between his legs and did it MY way - and orgasm he did! (He also asked me to marry him right afterward... I said no, we'd put that on hold for now.) But that time and every time since, I've tried to push his cock into my throat, and was unable to take all of him in.

At first, I was an inch or so away from the base, where his cock met skin. Sometimes he or I would hold it, squeeze it since my mouth couldn't reach. I read more, and I got closer, little by little. Sometimes I would push too far and I would choke and gag on him. The sound would turn him on. He'd call me a good girl. I focused on minimizing the gag. I tried to cut the time in between gagging and putting him back down to trigger it again - without puking. Every gag would get harder not to puke; sometimes I would just have to take the tip of his cock until my throat calmed down. Sometimes I couldn't calm down and had to stop trying to push myself.

I kept trying. I wanted to do it. I knew that I could. I kept to my normal position, in between his legs. I tried hanging my head off the bed... it made me panicky I couldn't handle it mentally. I tried reversing myself so we were in the traditional 69 position, but I found it uncomfortable and it didn't help the gag reflex.

Two nights ago, he made me cum several times by fingering my G-spot while I had my bullet vibe on my clit. My last orgasm was from my bullet vibe on clit and his tongue in my pussy. Oh bliss...

I was exhausted. We'd had a long weekend, a long drive, and I was tired. It was after 1am and I had to be up at 7 for work. He wanted a spanking and I wasn't up for it. I suggested he jack off onto my face. He had me scoot down on the bed, and kneeled with my head between his legs in a 69 position but him on top rather than me.

He started to jack off, right above my face. I opened my eyes, and saw his balls hanging above my forehead. I leaned up, and sucked one in. He gasped, and his jacking off stopped. I let go of the one, and took the other in my mouth. Delicious dick. I started to lick his cock in long strokes from base to tip.

I normally don't lick cock, I suck it. But it worked last night too well to not lick it. I licked and licked. Then I started to suck. Once I got the cock in my mouth, it slid easily down my throat... very easily. I felt it tickle where it it hit the back of my throat. It was a little dry. While his cock was in my mouth, I spanked him a few times with my free hand. My other hand gripped his hips. I pushed his cock further into me, and started to gag. Then I pushed him out and continued licking again.

I slithered my tongue around and across the length of his cock. He bowed his head down toward my pelvis; I told him to smell my pussy, smell what he had done to me. He did. Large sniffs into my short bush. I continued licking his cock like a long popsicle. It was covered in my spit. I sucked his balls a bit more.

Then I pushed him back into my throat, using my hands to guide his hips. I pushed him deep, and he was all the way in me. I bounced him gently into me and out, then pushed him out a bit more to prevent my gag reflex from kicking in. Then back in deep and I wiggled my head back and forth. Finally, I came up for air.  He panted to me, "It feels like you have all of it in..." I told I did. Every bit of it was in... and then to show him, I pushed him in deep again.

I slapped his ass while I held him in my throat. It was easy... until my brain clicked in and then I had to push him out, regain control, and then push him back down. During these moments I would lick and suck every inch of the underside of his cock, paying special attention to that spot just underneath the head of his dick. I repeated this trail of licks, deep throating, and more licking several more times. Then I would travel to the balls, or maybe play with just his cock head to make him flinch, waiting for me to push him back him.

My chin was coated in thick, slimy spit. It was the spit you read about: porn spit. It was everywhere on my lips and chin. His cock was coated in it. When I licked it off, I would cover him again when I pushed him down into my throat and held him there.

He laid his head on my pubic bone, resting. His arms couldn't support him through the sensations I was giving his dick. I pushed him down again and again, holding him there as long as I could. When I came up for air and more cock licking, I started humming a favorite love song of mine. He started groaning into me as I did it.

I kept humming while I pushed him down into my throat - and the sound cutting off was the sexiest silence we've heard. Eventually when I came up for air, I continued humming as if I'd been singing to him all along.

A few quick cycles of my air being cut off and he started to cum. The climax was very slow - he started "oohh.. OHHH... OOHHH..." and I could hear him and feel his body tense. I pushed him down into me as far as he could go, and held him, waiting, slightly wiggling my head. His exclamations grew louder, longer and I started to fear I was out of breath. And then I felt his cock convulse, but felt no cum. It was already down my throat.

He pulled out, and collapsed beside me. "Did I drown you?" he asked, concerned as I lay there panting.

"No, I can just taste it on the back of my tongue, but I barely felt it." I grinned with pride. "So.... did you like it?"

"Oh... baby...." and his eyes shut for a moment.

"That good, huh?" His eyes opened and shut again, smile on his face.

"Yeah, yeah..." and he voice drifted off. I got up to wipe the spit from my face. It literally was dripping off my chin.

Achievement unlocked. I can now deep throat the BF!

I gave the roughest blow job...

Note, this is part 1 of a 3 part series of one night of sex together.

Yesterday I realized it had been a few days, maybe a week since I gave the BF a blow job. Last weekend I had sucked him off in between riding his cock or him fucking me (I do love to taste myself). But I do enjoy sucking cock, so I texted him from work suggesting I suck him tonight if he'd eat me out.

Fast forward to 11pm or so, we are laying naked together, me on his chest. I'm rubbing his cock lightly with my fingers. It grows hard under my touch. I remind him of our deal, and he looks at me, complaining that he's too tried to keep his end of the deal. I tell him I bet I can change his mind. He's not sure, but I keep stroking him. He's hard, but I'm teasing him, not jacking him off.

He complains that I'm teasing him. The more he complains, the longer I make him wait for my mouth. His eyes are closed, his arm is curled around my head, holding me to his chest. I have one leg wrapped over his leg while my hand teases and tickles his cock. Finally, I get up to crawl in between his legs. I pull his cock into my mouth, and slide down onto it. I swipe my tongue around and around the back of his cock, and do slow movements up to his head and back down, as far as I can go. He gasps when I push him as far in as I can take it, almost choking on it.

I tease his head with my mouth, flicking my tongue over his hole. I suck on it, hard and release him with a hard suck. Then I force my mouth back down deep onto his dick. He moans as I cover him in my spit. Up and down I suck on his cock. I hold him deep in my throat, then flick my tongue up and down his cock making him moan and call to me softly.

I repeat my teasing of his head, this time swirling my mouth around it, covering as much as possible in my circular strokes. I suck hard, then swirl, the suck, swirl, and end with as much suction as I can give him. Then I choke on his dick, gagging myself on its length as I try to swallow as much as I can. His hands move to my arms, then one on my head, just resting. He rests it on me as I bob it up and down on his cock. Its too big to use my lips as a teeth shield, so my mouth is open as wide as I can make it.

I can feel his hips lifting up to me as I suck him off, drooling down his cock. His hand is holding my head but applying no pressure - I am hitting it just right. I'm sucking away happily, in my own blissful world. Then, he says, "More teeth."

I stop dead. "More?" I can't believe my ears.

"Yes, more teeth."

My mind has just gone 0-100 in about 1.2 seconds. I have never, ever been asked for teeth... I've made the mistake of scraping teeth (my mouth is only so big!)... but asked to add teeth? Wow... ok....

I close my jaw a bit, and I'm sliding my teeth up and down his cock. Its layers of lip-teeth-tongue-teeth-lip as I slide up and down him. I'm being careful to measure my pressure, I don't want to hurt him. Not even 30 seconds pass and I hear, "More! More teeth!" I freeze, mouth full of dick.

"Mmmmm?" I ask, not believing my ears yet again.

"Yes!" he breathes heavily.

I bite down on it, and I am now fully scraping his dick with my teeth, bruising him, I'm sure. I go slowly, but he he is happy. So I keep my bite on him, I can't go fast as I'm biting him and forcing his dick up and down in between my teeth. He is moaning so loudly. I trust what I'm hearing and it is only a few minutes until he cums. I keep him clamped between my teeth and I feel his dick spasming against my teeth. I let go, and removed my mouth as he trembled at every movement I made.

I lay down next to him and wait my turn...

to be continued...

We enjoy each other's cum

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Formspring Friday: About giving blowjobs

I was asked on twitter: I need advice, how do I get wife to enjoy giving me BJ? She always complains my jaw gets sore, what is she doing wrong?

Well, let me start by saying I'll do my best to answer this for you, but I am only one person and I hope some of my readers will jump in with their comments below to add any other advice I may have missed.

I think the first thing you need to consider is whether or not she wants to give you a BJ. Now, I have heard not all women like to give one and they end up doing it because they feel guilty or forced. I have only heard about this, I haven't experienced it myself. I personally love giving head and the women with whom I do discuss sex with all seem to really enjoy it, too. But I would have to imagine that, like all things, it just may not be some people's cup of tea. If that's the case, you need to find that out and talk about it. Obviously you're still going to want, and she's still not going to like it, and that's up to you two to solve.

So what if she does like to give head and she just finds it really difficult? Well, here are my cock-sucking tips for the women and men who love to suck cock, but find it difficult:

1. Stamina. Sucking cock takes stamina. It's not easy to keep your mouth open, tongue moving, sucking action going, and gag reflex in check for a sustained amount of time. (If you've never sucked cock yourself - suck a dildo for 5 minutes straight to get a feel for it). So sucking cock does take some stamina. I deal with this in a couple of ways. First, I chew a lot of gum - not to keep up my stamina, but because I like to chew gum. But all that chewing (3-4 hours at a stretch) does build some jaw strength. Then, I practice. I suck cock about once a week, sometimes more. I notice that if I go more than two weeks without sucking cock, it gets harder to do. So part of sucking cock is doing it somewhat often. The timing will depend on both of you... but trust me, the more you suck, the better at it you become. You learn more what to do, how to please, what he likes, how to get him off. Its not a race to make it the quickest orgasm ever, more that practice makes perfect. And practice builds stamina.  If the jaw is hurting, it could be because your cock is really big for her mouth and she'll need to focus more on the head and less on the whole cock. This is best done by sucking on the head and letting your hands work the rest of the cock.

2. Pace yourself.  Really this makes a HUGE difference. Start off slow, not fast and furious. Think of a BJ as stages of pleasure. Starting off should be working him up, getting him hard, focus on letting his cock just fill your mouth. Make him wet, let your saliva cover every inch of his cock. Then start kissing, licking, sucking and getting the excitement level to build. Play with the balls and every different part of his cock. Vary your rhythm. Get him very excited. When you're ready for him to cum, start building that orgasm with concentrated focus on his most sensitive parts - the head, and just under the head. Deep throat him, suck him, keep your mouth stationary and have your tongue run circles around the head. Listen to his breathing and his moans as clues as to where you are. Feel his body move to know what is working and what isn't.

3. Use your assets. Giving a BJ does not mean that you have to only suck cock. Maybe this is obvious, maybe its not. Sucking cock you should also use your hands and the rest of your body. Even your eyes can play a role! I  suck cock naked so he can watch my body move. I'll change my hair depending on the day - up away from the face, framing my face, or in pigtails. I usually kneel in between his legs while he's on his back - and my boobs hang down and cuddle against his balls depending on my angle. Sometimes to give my mouth a break I'll titty-fuck him for a bit. I'll handle his balls with one or both hands. I'll finger his asshole or even pull out a prostate massager and let that help me build up the orgasm a lot faster. Even jacking him off with your hand for a bit is a great break for your mouth - and your saliva can serve as the lube. If you need a longer break, climb on board and ride that cock. You may decide to end the BJ there and just continue with sex - or you can swap back and forth. It doesn't always have to be the same. If you feel that you're getting tired, change it up so you can take a mini-break and get back to sucking in a little bit.

My last tips are for you and all the other men out there.

1. Help us cock-sucking lovers out - don't make it hard for you to cum. Don't masturbate or cum too soon before the BJ starts. I can almost always make my BF cum from a BJ, but sometimes I can't. And I know about how long things should go until he should be experiencing an incredible orgasm. But if things are going, and going, and going, and I'm struggling to keep it up, I start getting resentful. It pisses me off asking for a BJ when the guy has (unintentionally) made it difficult to cum. Giving yourself that extra lasting power is great for you - but I can only give so much.

2. If you are blessed with long stamina and it takes a lot for you to cum - good for you. However, keep in mind that she may not be able to make you cum by BJ alone. Sucking for more than 5 minutes is good, more than 10 is pretty much superhuman. I've never timed how long I can last, but I know that 5 minutes sucking cock can feel like a lot longer if I'm giving him a good hard suck.

3. Final note guys: let her know its appreciated! Nothing says "thank you" for a BJ other than eating pussy. Or however else she loves to cum. And sometimes, make it all about her. Don't keep this kind of special pleasure reserved for "I'll eat you if you eat me." Sometimes its about her, sometimes its about you.

Bottom line: don't pressure too much and definitely let your partner know how good it feels and how you appreciate what he or she has done for you.

Readers - I'd love hear your input on this question!