TMI Tuesday: Prostate Love

1. When is the last time you or your loved one had their prostate checked?
I'm not sure? My BF has never had his checked by a doctor, and since I don't have one, I guess our total is zero times.

2. Besides a medical professional, how many other people have had their finger up your ass?
Just one, my boyfriend.  Normally I get one finger or a thumb. Once I had two fingers.

3. Have you ever given or received a prostate massage? Did you like it? Did you cum or orgasm?
I have given several prostate massages and really enjoyed them! I trimmed my nails extra short and wore latex gloves to keep my fingers clean and prevent any accidental scratching. It was very awesome to watch his face as my finger found his prostate and started to massage him. He did orgasm, and the feeling of his prostate right before orgasm was AWESOME.

4. Do you enjoy anal play–rimming, fingering, penetration, etc.?

I do! I love to rim and finger and peg my boyfriend. All three are a lot of fun and bring a lot of fun play into our sex life.

Oh, and I like receiving fingering and rimming at any time! Penetration is OK with a dildo or his ass, but I don't like it all the time. 

5. Ever had anal sex?
A. No, and I don’t want to.
B. No, but I am dying to try it.
C. Yes, but it is just okay.
D. Yes, love it…can’t get enough of it.
E. That’s the way I like it. Anal sex is the best sex.
For me: C. It's just okay for me. I do enjoy it, but somewhat infrequently.

For the BF: he says D. He loves anal play - both giving and receiving.

6. You are about to have anal sex, which method would you choose (You must choose one.):
A. Finger up the ass
B. Prostate stimulator/massager
C. Penis–real or strap-on
For me, A. I really love having a finger in my ass. It feels so good, and when he wiggles his finger in my ass while he's fucking me, it gets me so excited!

He would choose C, again for both giving and receiving.

Bonus: Show us your Movember moustache. Post a photo.
Sorry, no bonus from us this time!

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Review: Maximus Lube

Note: This product was provided by Erotic Toy Town in exchange for an honest review. You can check out all the lubes available at Erotic Toy Town right here. 

The Product
Playing with toys often requires good lubrication. We have tried a variety of lubes and have come up with a list of qualities we like in our lubes. They are:

• Water-based: While we've tried silicone-based lube, we weren't that impressed. Plus, we have a lot of silicone toys so purchasing silicone lube still requires the purchase of a water-based lube for use with our toys. Silicone lube is then restricted to hand/foot jobs. We'd rather just have one main type of lube on hand. That makes water-based lube the winner in our home.
• Glycerin free: While this seems like a simple and "duh" requirement, it is shocking how many lubes out there include glycerin as a product. Glycerin is a huge danger ingredient for women with yeast infections. Consider fingers and dick and toys tend to wander, I don't want this ingredient anywhere near my pussy.
• Parabens: I try very hard to stay away from parabens in my lubricants. There is a lot of controversy and scientific studies that debate whether they are or are not dangerous. For me, I prefer to stay on the safe side and just avoid them altogether. I am not allergic to them, although I've heard some horror stories of having burn-like reactions to them. So if a lube has any parabens as an ingredient, then I will not use it for internal use. If I have it on my hands or feet, I'll wash off immediately when done.
• Flavoring: We don't use lube for oral sex at all, so it really doesn't matter to us if it tastes like anything. Normally we don't bother with a flavor because of this.

Photo courtesy of Erotic Toy Town

Believe it or not, the glycerin narrows our water-based lube choice by about 50% it seems. If we pick something without parabens, cut out another 25% at least. That leaves very few choices for lube.

Whenever I ask for recommendations on lube, the Maximus brand lubricant is always one of the most popular suggestions. It seems everyone likes this lube! I was a little hesitant to try it because of the parabens, but since I so rarely use lube internally, I thought I would give it a try. I'm very glad I did.

The bottle is a larger bottle of lube with 8.45oz (250ml) of lube in it.


The Sex (for Her)
I give my boyfriend a lot of handjobs and the occasional footjob. I always like to take my time, and this normally requires a lot of lube application and reapplication. Normally with a water-based lube I'll apply lube 4-7 times depending on the lube. It can be a real pain as it interrupts the action. This lube was an excellent surprise! Where other lubes fall short in duration, this lube wins the prize. It lasts like a silicone lube!  It has a slight oily feel to it, but its very smooth and doesn't end up tacky like most other lubes. This lube just becomes "less" the longer you use it, so pleasant sensation isn't lost to a rubbing feeling.

And I like to play with the balls as well.

When I give him a handjob with this lube, I start out with 2 pumps and start lightly stroking his cock. This lube isn't super thick like some others I've tried, but it isn't runny either. It glides very easily across his dick and covers him very easily. Two or three strokes up and down and his cock is covered in lube. I will toy with him by jacking him off and teasing him lightly, increasing the intensity and, at my pace, bringing him to orgasm. At some point I'll add another squirt just to keep his dick slick enough for easy gliding. Toward the end of a handjob I focus on either the head of the penis or long, fast strokes up and down his dick. I give a lot of pressure so having a smooth, long lasting lube is key! 

I gave him a footjob with this lube last weekend. Similar to the handjob, I normally require multiple lube applications. This time, we only needed 1 application! We covered my toes and his dick and off I went jacking him off with a combination of jerking him off in between the arches of my foot or scrunching my toes around him and moving my feet along his dick. I loved being able to concentrate just on him, not the amount of lube we were using.

The Sex (for Him)
The boyfriend likes this lube because it keeps us both focused on the moment. He masturbates once or twice a day while I'm at work and almost always uses lube (another major reason we go through a lot!). This lube has been used quite a bit in the week we've had it with almost all of it ending up on his dick. When he applies lube he does maybe half a pump onto his palm while jacking off his dick. This requires several pumps while masturbating, but he doesn't seem to mind -- actually he does it to make the whole experience last longer. 

Beautiful boyfriend dick.

I gave him a prostate massage with this lube a couple of nights ago. This was done with my finger, so I wore a glove to help with cleanup and further protection against my fingernails. With other lubes, I start with 2 pumps to generously cover my finger(s) and the exterior of his anus. With the Maximus lube, I was able to just do 1 pump and that was enough to cover everything and leave him feeling slick and comfortable for sliding my finger in. It also kept him sufficiently lubed for the entire massage so we didn't need to worry about reapplication.

The Judgement
Overall, we give Maximus a 3/5. We are so excited to find a water-based lube that lasts this long and doesn't have any tacky/sticky feeling. The first time we used it he asked, "Are you sure it's water-based?" Yes, I checked the ingredients! We love this lube. There are two things we didn't like about it. First, the clean-up. The oily feel made washing hands take a bit longer than other lubes. Also, I let some dry on me for about a half hour (ok, I fell into a sex coma) and when I woke up, it was completely dry. It didn't flake off like I expected, but rubbed off into little sticky balls. It was very odd and I had to use water and wipe or scrub it off. Second, because it has parabens, I won't suck his dick with any of this lube on it, even hours later. With paraben-free lubes I will do that gladly but this one with the weird way it dries and the ingredients, it's not an option. And I really like to have that option.

It's a great lube and I think it's one we'll be purchasing Maximus in the future due to its great qualities for hand and foot jobs.

We enjoy each other's cum

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Formspring Friday: About giving blowjobs

I was asked on twitter: I need advice, how do I get wife to enjoy giving me BJ? She always complains my jaw gets sore, what is she doing wrong?

Well, let me start by saying I'll do my best to answer this for you, but I am only one person and I hope some of my readers will jump in with their comments below to add any other advice I may have missed.

I think the first thing you need to consider is whether or not she wants to give you a BJ. Now, I have heard not all women like to give one and they end up doing it because they feel guilty or forced. I have only heard about this, I haven't experienced it myself. I personally love giving head and the women with whom I do discuss sex with all seem to really enjoy it, too. But I would have to imagine that, like all things, it just may not be some people's cup of tea. If that's the case, you need to find that out and talk about it. Obviously you're still going to want, and she's still not going to like it, and that's up to you two to solve.

So what if she does like to give head and she just finds it really difficult? Well, here are my cock-sucking tips for the women and men who love to suck cock, but find it difficult:

1. Stamina. Sucking cock takes stamina. It's not easy to keep your mouth open, tongue moving, sucking action going, and gag reflex in check for a sustained amount of time. (If you've never sucked cock yourself - suck a dildo for 5 minutes straight to get a feel for it). So sucking cock does take some stamina. I deal with this in a couple of ways. First, I chew a lot of gum - not to keep up my stamina, but because I like to chew gum. But all that chewing (3-4 hours at a stretch) does build some jaw strength. Then, I practice. I suck cock about once a week, sometimes more. I notice that if I go more than two weeks without sucking cock, it gets harder to do. So part of sucking cock is doing it somewhat often. The timing will depend on both of you... but trust me, the more you suck, the better at it you become. You learn more what to do, how to please, what he likes, how to get him off. Its not a race to make it the quickest orgasm ever, more that practice makes perfect. And practice builds stamina.  If the jaw is hurting, it could be because your cock is really big for her mouth and she'll need to focus more on the head and less on the whole cock. This is best done by sucking on the head and letting your hands work the rest of the cock.

2. Pace yourself.  Really this makes a HUGE difference. Start off slow, not fast and furious. Think of a BJ as stages of pleasure. Starting off should be working him up, getting him hard, focus on letting his cock just fill your mouth. Make him wet, let your saliva cover every inch of his cock. Then start kissing, licking, sucking and getting the excitement level to build. Play with the balls and every different part of his cock. Vary your rhythm. Get him very excited. When you're ready for him to cum, start building that orgasm with concentrated focus on his most sensitive parts - the head, and just under the head. Deep throat him, suck him, keep your mouth stationary and have your tongue run circles around the head. Listen to his breathing and his moans as clues as to where you are. Feel his body move to know what is working and what isn't.

3. Use your assets. Giving a BJ does not mean that you have to only suck cock. Maybe this is obvious, maybe its not. Sucking cock you should also use your hands and the rest of your body. Even your eyes can play a role! I  suck cock naked so he can watch my body move. I'll change my hair depending on the day - up away from the face, framing my face, or in pigtails. I usually kneel in between his legs while he's on his back - and my boobs hang down and cuddle against his balls depending on my angle. Sometimes to give my mouth a break I'll titty-fuck him for a bit. I'll handle his balls with one or both hands. I'll finger his asshole or even pull out a prostate massager and let that help me build up the orgasm a lot faster. Even jacking him off with your hand for a bit is a great break for your mouth - and your saliva can serve as the lube. If you need a longer break, climb on board and ride that cock. You may decide to end the BJ there and just continue with sex - or you can swap back and forth. It doesn't always have to be the same. If you feel that you're getting tired, change it up so you can take a mini-break and get back to sucking in a little bit.

My last tips are for you and all the other men out there.

1. Help us cock-sucking lovers out - don't make it hard for you to cum. Don't masturbate or cum too soon before the BJ starts. I can almost always make my BF cum from a BJ, but sometimes I can't. And I know about how long things should go until he should be experiencing an incredible orgasm. But if things are going, and going, and going, and I'm struggling to keep it up, I start getting resentful. It pisses me off asking for a BJ when the guy has (unintentionally) made it difficult to cum. Giving yourself that extra lasting power is great for you - but I can only give so much.

2. If you are blessed with long stamina and it takes a lot for you to cum - good for you. However, keep in mind that she may not be able to make you cum by BJ alone. Sucking for more than 5 minutes is good, more than 10 is pretty much superhuman. I've never timed how long I can last, but I know that 5 minutes sucking cock can feel like a lot longer if I'm giving him a good hard suck.

3. Final note guys: let her know its appreciated! Nothing says "thank you" for a BJ other than eating pussy. Or however else she loves to cum. And sometimes, make it all about her. Don't keep this kind of special pleasure reserved for "I'll eat you if you eat me." Sometimes its about her, sometimes its about you.

Bottom line: don't pressure too much and definitely let your partner know how good it feels and how you appreciate what he or she has done for you.

Readers - I'd love hear your input on this question!

Cock Tease Wednesday

So I'm a cock tease. I love to tease, torture, prolong, toy, and play with cock. I like to combine sensations: soft and slow, soft and fast, hard and slow, hard and fast, strong grip, light grip, fingertips only, fingers, one hand, two hands, knuckles, in between fingers, palms... there are so many ways to play with a cock and give a handjob. I love to explore, and I'm always watching his face to see which direction I need to go. My goal is to make it feel good, then drop sensation so the build-up to the orgasms drops, but pleasure stays high. Do it again, and again, so when the orgasm comes the build-up makes it fucking fantastic.

So Wednesday night, I wasn't sure what we were going to do before bed. I was horny and still a little bit on a high from the incredibly pussy eating he gave me earlier in the week (you can read it here). After I blogged about it I couldn't stop thinking about it and told him that... and he hinted that maybe he would give me more of that Wednesday night.  On the couch, while watching TV, I started playing with his cock, squeezing it hard in my hand, feeling how hard it was... then I started going down on him, sucking and taking him almost all the way in.

Sure enough, he pulled back the sheets and crawled down between my legs, pushing them wider open than I thought was necessary. I giggled, delighted he was going down on me there again. And then his started licking on my clit. What a rush of pleasure! I think its the sexual equivalent of going from 0-60 in 5 seconds. After only ten seconds or so, he looks up and me and asks, "Where's that clit boner?"

"Umm.... I don't know?" What am I supposed to say to that? He sucks on my little clit.

"I want a boner to suck on," he slaps my pussy lips. "Give me a clit boner to suck on." He slaps my pussy again, this time grazing my clit just slightly and my whole body jumps. So he does it again and again and soon he's spanking my pussy demanding a clit boner again and again. Every spank makes my hips thrust up toward him, and now he's pinching my clit between his fingers... and I can tell the clit boner isn't there yet.

He kisses my stomach and thighs and sticks his finger in my pussy... I'm wet with anticipation. Then he's sucking on me and my clit and pussy feels wet and warm. His tongue is flicking against me, wiggling back and forth moving my clit back and forth sideways making me gasp. He started sucking on my clit, giving it sucking kisses. I can feel it tugging on my whole clit, deep inside I can feel it. "You love my pussy don't you baby?" I ask.

"You know I do," he tells me. "It tastes so good I love to eat your pussy baby." I'm melting inside and I am getting wetter. Now he moves his tongue just below my clit to that super sensitive area  - basically the best spot ever for high pleasure sensation... and after sucking on my clit, I explode with an orgasm and can't control my hips from bucking.

But he doesn't stop. He keeps going, moving his head with me, now waving his head back and forth so quickly its like my whole pussy is in orgasm. When he starts lapping at my clit again, I have a second orgasm... then he does something so fucking hot, its something that I've only ever fantasized about. As I'm about to finish my orgasm, he moves his tongue down to start tongue-fucking me, and I can feel him pushing his face into me, and he's fucking his tongue so good I start cumming on it - and he's lapping up my cum, almost sucking it into his mouth.

When he moves up to kiss me, I'm ravenous for his kisses. His mouth tastes so incredibly good - he had a pool of my cum still on his tongue, and our tongues shared it during a kiss. I pushed him over, kissing him with more force than I think I ever have. He laughed in surprise, but I told him that eating my pussy like that and licking my cum out of me is the hottest thing I've ever experienced.

I wanted to make him cum and cum good. "What do you want?" I breathed. He wanted to know what I was offering. "Anything you want... just tell me and I'll do it." And I kissed him again. He gave me a mischievous grin. He wanted a hand job - and while that may strike some as an odd choice, I think he has his reasons. He says I play with his cock better than he does. He loves my hand jobs - I have given him some of his best orgasms that way. So, a hand job he wants, a hand job he'll get.

His cock was hard, but not that hard... I grabbed our bottle of lube and warmed it up in my hands and started rubbing his cock lightly. I ran my fingers from tip to balls, pulling on them slightly and stroking his cock. I spanked him with his cock, hitting it against his stomach. This makes his body jolt, and he smiles a grin while biting his upper lit - a clear sign he's turned on. "Can I stick the blue massager in you?" I ask. His eyes open a bit wider, so my grin grows wider and I lube it up and slowly and gently slide it into his but. He gasps and moans as I turn it on the first setting. Then I grab his cock again and he gasps really loudly.

I play with him, squeezing and stroking. I normally keep my hand jobs one handed, but this time I used two, using one as a ball massager/manual cock ring and the other to rub his cock. Every once in a while I switch the setting on the massager to make sure its never the same for too long. Eventually I have it on the fifth setting (out of seven) and I decide I don't want him to cum yet. So I tell him that he's going to eat me and make me cum before I'll let him cum. His eyes widen and I take this as permission - as if I were really giving it.

I let the vibrator keep going, and kneel with my knees over his shoulder so I'm sitting on his face... the first time I've ever sat on his face. Thank goodness I have a tall headboard I can grip, because he didn't just lick my pussy, he ate it like there wasn't any food left on earth. His mouth was everywhere, and I swear not a minute had passed before I came. Twice. I'm holding myself up on his face, so I fall backwards and sideways in a mini-collapse of post-orgasm relief. But his eyes are looking at me like I can't leave him there like that - cock hard, vibrator going, with no orgasm in sight. I add lube to my hands and start jacking him off and playing with his balls again. I restart the vibrator cycle back to 1, and play with him and play with him more. One hand is constantly gripping the base of his cock, pushing his balls up... he loves my grip on him, especially while the other hand is jacking him off.

After a while I can see he's getting nearer to orgasm, but I'm not ready to give him relief... so I stop and climb on his face again... and now his desperation to cum is so clear by the way he's eating me out... again, I cum so quickly on his face and this time I'm bucking my hips and fucking his face with my pussy as I cum... when I pull off I look at him and he has creamy cum on his beard on his chin, its thick and beautiful... I leave it there, and as I continue jacking him off, I can see it glistening in the light.

I turn the massager on its final and strongest setting, and start jacking off his cock really well... his neck and chin are up, his chest his up, and his eyes are shut tight... his body is tensed, and I'm slowly and steadily working him up to orgasm, but then I start going off faster and harder and it takes him a little by surprise. He cums with a strong orgasm and covers my fingers in his cum.

We leave my cum on his chin all night, a memento from the incredibly hot night.