TMI Tuesday: The Erotic Home

SinnerMan strikes again! This week’s questions are brought to you by virtualsin.wordpress.com.

1. When you bought your bed frame, did you evaluate it in terms of ropes, handcuffs, etc?
YES. A thousand times yes. I have to say, I made the right choice, no? (And this was purchased prior to the FHF*).  So many options...

Possibilities are endless!

2. Aside from beds, was sex ever a major consideration in choosing a piece of furniture?
Of course! When we purchased our large leather ottoman, we whispered to each other in the store how good it would be for sex. And it has been.


3. Have you ever had anyone else (friend, mom) say a piece of your furniture was inappropriate because it was clearly for sexual purposes?
No, mostly because I don't have any friends or family over. We're too far away from everyone. So... I guess we need new friends!


4. Do you have a piece of furniture that has a stain caused by bodily fluids (baby vomit not included)?
Yes. My mattress was 5 years old and spotless before the FHF. Six months after learning how to squirt and its stained everywhere... we finally invested in a waterproof mattress pad, but the damage has been done. Aside from that, no, I try to be very careful about that.

5. Do you have anything in your bedside table you wouldn’t want your father or mother to know about?
I'm on the fence about this. Honestly, I don't care if they peak and find out. That's what they get for peaking. Only a few toys are on/in the bedside table (okay ON not IN) and the majority are in our sex toy cabinet.

6. Do you own any exercise equipment that is useful for sex?
We have a couple of exercise balls, but have yet to put them into any good use. I really don't want to think about exercise when having sex.

7. Aside from your bedroom, what room do you have sex in most often?
The kitchen! We love kitchen sex... 

8. Do you have any electronics (TV, stereo) etc in your bedroom that are on during sex?
Never. We never do TV or music during sex. It's always 100% about us. Ok well one time while watching Netflix in bed, we had sex, but the volume was off (we turned it off) so we wouldn't be distracted. Sex by laptop light.

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*FHF = Fucking Hot Fiance

TMI Tuesday: The Big O

1 – Do you remember your first orgasm? How old were you? Tell us about it.
Even though I first started masturbating at the age of 12 (I think), I didn't orgasm until I was 18. Try as I might (and try I did almost every day for those 6 years!), I could never orgasm. It would get very pleasurable, and I would get close, but I didn't know how to pace myself and build to orgasm... more often than not I just rushed into it and got a good feeling, but never the satisfaction. I knew there was 'more.'

My first orgasm happened in Geneva, Switzerland. My boyfriend at the time and I had snuck off campus and rented a "cheap" hotel room in the red light district (the only area we poor college students could afford). We had been dating for about 9 months but I hadn't even removed my bra yet... well, that night I did. It was also the first time I had him remove his pants (but not his underwear!) and I found his boner quiet hard under me as I sat astride him. Making out I ended up grinding my hips and found the perfect angle where my clit rubbed the length of his dick up and down. I knew where it was going but I didn't give myself away. I just kissed him through the pleasure and came for the first time ever.

Poor virgin didn't even realize it until I told him about it years later.

2 – What is your favorite way to orgasm? (Sex, g-spot/p-spot, oral, etc).
Hands down my favorite way is with fingers on my clit! It's more intense with something (preferably dick) in me while this is happening, but a clitoral orgasm with fingers is awesome. I am so attracted to hands and its more exciting than tongue and more pleasurable than penis.

3 – Are there any ways you want to experience an orgasm but haven’t yet? (oral, p-spot/g-spot, with or without a vibrator, squirt, etc).
I finally achieved squirting, but I would really like to combine it more with orgasm (its not always simultaneous) and actually target it rather than it happen only 50% of the time when I'm trying for it. Otherwise I can G-spot orgasm but it is rare. And, lucky me, my BF is quite good at making me cum via oral sex.

4 – Have you ever had an orgasm in your sleep?
No! I always wake up RIGHT before it's going to happen. 90% of the time my hand is touching myself so I go ahead and finish anyway... I mean, how could I not!?

5 – What is the easiest/fastest way for you to have an orgasm?
Well, it used to be with my fingers. However, since I bought the Hitachi, that is such an easy way to cum. Actually its almost TOO easy. It takes just a few minutes and I'm done. 

6 – How many times a week do you try to reach orgasm?
I don't set a goal, ever. I just let it happen. I would say last year (prior to the house purchase and my crazy work schedule over the summer) I was averaging 25 orgasms a week. Now I'm probably in the 10-15 range. That's OK - its still A LOT.

7 – Have you ever had an orgasm at the same time as your partner? Who normally cums first?
YES. Now, I realize this is the bane of porn and erotica where the partners always orgasm together... it's not always for us, but it does happen a lot. I get very excited when a man comes in me. If I've been having a pleasurable time and building up, there's a good chance that when he comes that first tremble of his will trigger my own orgasm. It's so freaking hot I just come. If not, then I get super horny and am almost guaranteed the need to come again. 

There are plenty of times where my orgasm triggers his from my initial clench around his penis. My whole body arches into him and it sends him over the edge - and wow. It's a beautiful moment.

Normally I come first during PIV sex. My boyfriend is very good at holding off his orgasm to ensure I always come first. If for whatever reason I don't, he absolutely helps me finish.

8 – Can you have multiples?
Yes, I can. It happens very frequently, especially with a vibrator or while getting fucked through an orgasm.

9 – How long does it normally take you to reach orgasm?
With my fingers, between 5-10 minutes. Through PIV sex, anywhere from 3-15 min depending on what we do, etc. From oral, about 5 minutes. With the Hitachi, oh about 2 minutes.

These are my best guesses - I really lose track of time.

10 – Have you ever faked one?
NO. I don't understand the point of it. Anyone I'll ever sleep with or be intimate will be treated with the respect of me always being honest. Sometimes it just isn't going to happen because I'm tired, distracted, sick, etc. Sometimes I don't care but I just want to be used. I'm not going to prolong things just to lie about it. If its not working for me, I'll be honest and tell you what to change or what I need. Some nights I can't orgasm from PIV sex and I need clit stimulation. Some nights I don't want my clit touched. Very recently I was fucked so hard I couldn't have penetration for almost three days, so it was vibe only for me.

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A look at our sex toy collection

Separately, we had both started collecting sex toys. However, neither of us had much of a collection. We started buying toys together before we even met in person. Now you get to see full details below.

Innocent cabinet

Ta-Da!

Our innocent cabinet that matches other bedroom furniture turns into....
















OK, let's dive in, shall we? I've linked to blog references to these toys and, for some, where you can buy them yourself. You're welcome!

 Top Shelf - Bondage

 1. Handcuffs with velcro adjustments & fake metal (read: plastic) chain). We bought these in a local sex shop early in our relationship. We liked the chain in between the cuffs, but found it was so cheap we really didn't trust the links against our real struggling.

2. Japanese Rope handcuffs: This was given to me as a wedding present from my best friend. The rope is super soft and actually luxurious feeling. My ex wouldn't touch it. I've used these to bind the BF to the bed sitting up to watch me masturbate.

3. Metal handcuffs: These were from the BF that he brought with him. They do click into place well; we don't have a key for them. There isn't much of a chain between them and I think we've only used them once. The metal kind of hurts and is distracting to us during sex, which is why we bought the cuffs in #1.

4. Velcro handcuffs: Another set from the BF that he brought with him. These have a plastic clip that can clip them together or, if you have the equipment, connect to some longer straps. We don't have those. One cuff has printed "Don't" and the other "Stop" on them. These are fine, but we don't really like them very much.

5/6. Because its so visible in the background, the black pouch and purple below it are storage items for other toys shown further in the list...

2nd shelf - Clit Vibes

7. Vibrating Clit pump. Oh, the famous clit pump!

8. Fun Factory's Layaspot: I purchased this as a clitoral/full exterior pussy vibrator during my sexual frustrated years... and this toy was equally frustrating. But I haven't thrown it out. I'm hopful I can turn it in to something fun.

9. Pipedream vibrator: This little vibe actually goes with a glass dildo further down on the list. The vibe is very strong and has some great vibe patterns, but it gets hot quickly. It's a backup should my trusty bullet vibe break (again!) on me.

10. Bullet vibe: This vibe is a cheap bullet vibe that you can buy from almost every sex toy shop online under different toy names; they are all obviously the same with different print on them. They range from $9-$15 depending on where you purchase. This is my back-up as my current working one is on my bedside table for easy access. My favorite vibe ever! Bought my first one on my honeymoon, used it about once a year. Now I use it once or twice a week, I think.

11. Rocket Vibe: This vibe is battery whore. Seriously. It will wear out two AA batteries in about 30 minutes. If you're willing to invest in the batteries, this is a super fun toy. It's about 5 inches in length but has the power of my bullet vibe and includes vibration patterns! I've used it in my pussy to practice my kegels and in his ass as a little extra stimulation while I jack him off.

Vibrating dildos/glass

12. The Tantus Echo. I bought this toy a few months ago as a special deal from Tantus (it's listed as a closeout item currently). Anyway, this silicone dildo is awesome because it comes with an 80mm bullet vibe that you can feel through the whole dildo. Plus its ridges are pretty extreme - it's like 5 or 6 penis heads entering/exiting your body with each full thrust. This dildo stretches me out and makes my BF accuse me of having an extra slutty pussy.

13. Random vibrating dildo. I remember I bought this dildo from Babeland during my frustrated years of sex, but I've barely used it (and I can't find it on their website anymore). There's nothing wrong with it, but its just not super exciting to me. I keep it because when I want a vibe with some slight waves for gripping with my pussy, this is it. Oh, and it vibrates.

14. Pipedreams Icicle dildo #16. This is my first glass dildo and there is a review coming on it. I love glass, and this toy is awesome. It's very popular for our G-spot/try to make me squirt play, such as the time he tied me up and just made me scream and scream.

15. Babeland Orchid G: I bought this toy along with Violet Blue's book The Smart Girl's Guide to the G-Spot as a kit from Babeland when I first discovered squirting and decided I wanted to try it myself. I had no sucess on my own with this item -- until this week. I tried masturbating with this item and my hitachi to squirt. I got very close, but ended up squirting with my hitachi alone after I had given up on it happening at all. So I think this toy has redeemed itself after 5 years, its now a keeper.

16. Butterfly Kiss vibe: This is my first vibrator that was designed to target G-spot and clit. I started using this shortly before the BF entered my life. I used it all the time on cam with him during skype, showing off a bit of my oral skills. This is the toy that he coached me into having multiple orgasms with. Now that my pussy has been stretched out a bit, this toy really doesn't do much for me anymore.

17. OK, I admit. I have one jelly toy. In my defense, it came free with another toy order. I've not used it. BUT, it's a rabbit vibe - which I've never tried - and I really want to cover it with a condom and just try it one day. And then toss it.

Anal play & couples toys

18. Tantus Charmer dildo. Another purchase via a Tantus special, this is a great toy for anal and G-spot play. The ridges are much less intense than the Echo dildo/vibe so we both use this toy and I love to peg him with it.

19. The Siren dildo. Our second dildo purchase together, this is our favorite pegging dildo. It's pretty big and I can get his P-spot so good with it. It's also the one he uses when he fucks himself against the bathroom wall and sends me naughty pictures of it. This is our largest dildo, but I think we're ready for an upgrade in size. When he fucks my vagina with it, he loves to dirty talk at how loose it makes me.

20. Spareparts Joque harness. This is our only harness and we love it. I selected it because it was adjustable in so many ways and unlike so many other harnesses out there, it is machine washable! The harness parts wrap around your waist and and legs, leaving your ass completely free and open. It's also available in a larger size for us "plus size" women, so I don't feel squeezed into it.

21. Tantus Silk dildo - small. This was our first dildo purchase and we got it to go with the harness. Its funny, you never know how small something is until you see it and we were both a little disappointed at this size. He really wanted something larger. However, this is the toy we use for DP when he fucks my pussy and then fucks my ass with this. It's a great size for that and I feel very comfortable with it.

22. Crystal Delights glass butt plug. We have a pink crystal in the end of this toy. I won this on twitter to my absolutely delight and received it about a day before we moved - so we haven't used it yet. Stay tuned.

23. Condoms. We only use condoms when I'm on antibiotics which interfere with my birth control pill. Otherwise we dislike the condom route. I keep these on hand for emergencies or when I have a toy we want to use anally but it isn't made of silicone or if its not flared at the bottom (like the rocket vibe) and I need to hold onto something more than the end of the toy.

24. Pop Plug / Plug of Lust (small): I won this toy on twitter before I even had a sex blog - my first sex toy win! We love this anal plug. It kind of reminds me of a pacifier and it does kind of "pop" into your ass. We've both worn this plug in preparation for anal sex. We love it.

25. Pop Plug / Plug of Lust (large): While #24 came from Babeland, this one came from Eden Fantasy's. To me, they look identical aside from the color. It certainly is large compared to the small, and only the BF has used it so far. He loves it. I've plugged him with it, and then held the hitachi to his ass for it.

26/27. Vibrating cock rings. I've purchase both of these from Babeland. The first was an attempt to entice my terrible married sex life (one of many) and I ended up not liking the toy; it wasn't strong enough. The other cock ring is made of silicone and could hit my clit just right. however, the BF didn't like it and found the vibes so distracting he went limp. So... I'm not sure what I'll do with these.

28. Pink Silk gloves. We bought these on our date night in May. The BF has always wanted me to stroke him with silk gloves. I made him orgasm just from stroking his body with these gloves. He just loves them. He's also used them on me.

29. Blindfold. These came with our restraints we purchased (also on our date night). We don't blindfold often, and when we have we've used my silk scarves for it.

Spanking & Large toys

30. Drac Fleshlight. We got him this vampire-inspired fleshlight around Christmas for his and my joint fun. We've both used this toy, and he tends to use it while sitting on twitter talking to me or looking through tumblr during his morning masturbation. I like to pretend to eat this pussy before he uses it if I'm around. Oh, and the material makes me totally jealous I don't have a dick myself.

31. Riding crop. Another date night purchase, this toy has been used quite a bit in the short time we've owned it. I've spanked his ass and he's spanked my ass and clit with this toy. We love the reach with it, and yet we love how close you can be and still use it effectively.

32. SLUT paddle. Ooh our spanking paddle. We love this. I use it to administer swift spanks to him when he's naughty around the house.

Not pictured:

33. Mr. Hitachi, who is always plugged in next to my side of the bed awaiting use.

34. Our bed restraints, which will be featured in the near future in a post of its own. We don't take them off the bed unless we have really good reason to. 

35. Pandora vibe, an excellent prostate vibrator just for him. It's currently packed somewhere and hasn't been unpacked  yet.

36. Smartballs Teneo uno - A single kegel exercise ball that is also packed somewhere still. I love to wear it, when I remove it after a couple of hours its normally covered in cum as if I've had an orgasm. I normally have the BF lick it clean, although I do take part in that sometimes as well.

Update on our "No sex pact"

As we've announced on twitter, we are closing on our first home this coming week. This has been in the works for several months and we could not be more excited that it's coming to an end.  We have been talking for a while about celebrating this awesome milestone, but how?

I know there are some things we've been waiting to experience together in the new home, like him dominating me or him tying me up and really letting me have it. He won't do either of those now because he needs me to be able to scream without alerting the neighbors. But those are thing that will not happen right away.

One day when we were talking about how my pussy has changed he joked about not having sex for a while to see if that made a difference. Of course when he says this we both end up laughing, there's no way we could just withhold sex for months... but what about weeks? I don't remember how the conversation went, but someone suggested not having sex until we were officially moved into the house, and the other agreed.

What we didn't consider was that moving day was 23 days away.

As of this post, we are on day 12. Twelve days without penis-in-vagina sex.

It's not a dry spell, as we are both horny and wanton. In fact, we are even more horny as a result. We are indulging in everything else. The past twelve days have included anal sex, handjobs, toys, and tons of oral.

In a way, our sex life has never been so hot.

We've never been so on fire for each other. When I get home from work we are immediately in the bedroom making out and sucking on each other. And then at bedtime we want more.

I've noticed a few things from this. First, he's become more generous in wanting me to not have just an orgasm or two, but 5, 8, 10, or more. He may give me a few, and when I'm doing satisfying him he wants to give more. And then I give more back.

We are more desperate to be with each other. We can't stand to be apart while I'm at work. During our couch cuddle time in the evening we are now naked and he is laying on my body, feeling me up a bit before bedtime.

We are fighting more. I think our passion for each other is closer to the surface, but that means it's easier to trigger some stupid argument. We fight passionately over stupid stuff, then all of a sudden it dissipates and we end up just holding each other.

So, is it worth it? So far, I think so. Call it an experiment in sex. An experiment in our relationship. Since we've been together, we've only abstained from PIV sex for three days. And it was a very long three days. When it ended, we had three very hot, explosive rounds of sex in a hotel room.  I can only imagine that, if three days resulted in that kind of reaction, what would three weeks do?

So we're looking forward to the date with a LOT of anticipation. It will be an awesome, amazing night. And in the meantime, we are rediscovering and just enjoying all the ways we give handjobs, oral sex, cuddling, and masturbation. Oh, lots of masturbation.

So here we are, on fire for each other, denying ourselves for a purpose. It's hot, driving us wild, and we are loving and hating every moment of it.

Review: SLUT Paddle

The Toy

SLUT paddle by Sportsheets

You know we like spanking, right? Well, we do. Specifically, I like to spank him and he loves to be spanked. I haven't received much spanking, it's not my thing like it is for him. However, I'm not opposed to it. The problem with spanking is that, when you use your hand, it starts to sting the spanker pretty quickly. And then, at least for us, my hand/arm gets tired of the repeated spanking. We needed and wanted an aid to help spanking last longer.

Handle detail

We saw this toy in our local sex shop and then I had the opportunity to buy it at a discount online. It's made of leather by Sportsheets (who makes a lot of great kink sex toys like paddles, crops, restraints, and more). In general, the paddle is well made. The leather is great quality and well cut. The word SLUT is cut-out on one side of the spanking end. The lettering is very precise and there are no stray bits of leather that could stray off of the paddle. The spanking The bright pink is a piece of paper inbetween two pieces of leather that are unattached except to the handle that really help this toy achieve a good slap. The handle is comfortable for my (medium-size) hand to grip for 30-45 minutes at a stretch. The paddle is light weight and does not feel heavy even after prolonged use. The end has a loop for hanging by a string for storage if you choose.

The Sex (for her)
First, as the spanker, I love this paddle. It takes all the sting out of my hands, making spanking much easier to deliver on his ass. This paddle is the right length where I can sit or stand behind him or next to him and give strong, swift strokes. I can vary the hits so they are light and teasing or sharp and stinging. Unfortunately, despite the cut-out of the word SLUT, I could not get the word to show up on his ass no matter how light or hard I smacked him.

Last night he spanked me with this toy for the first time. To my surprise, I was able to handle the hits he gave me pretty well. He had me lay down on the bed, and then started spanking me. He started out with lighter hits, but then moved pretty quickly to sharper, harder blows that left a stinging feeling for the briefest moment. Repeated hits, of course, made it last longer. Each hit made my entire body flinch, so he varied his rhythm to make me  unsure when the next slap would hit me. Only a minute or two passed before he told me my ass was turning quite red. I enjoyed the spanking, but without any clitorial stimulation I doubt I'd cum from him. My spanking only lasted a few minutes with this item before he turned me over and fingered me to orgasm. My ass was definitely sensitive for a few minutes, but no more than that.

Just the right size!

The Sex (for him)
As the spanker, he liked using this. He has spanked me with his hand before and the slaps always sting and hurt so much I try to get away as fast as I can. This toy helps regulate his hitting strength so I can actually enjoy a spanking. We didn't use anything for clitoral or vaginal stimulation with this toy; I think that needs to happen in future use to make it more enjoyable for both of us. Otherwise, just spanking made him a little bored as he really wanted to see me orgasm.

He loves being spanked with this paddle. I make him retrieve it and I remind him how much of a slut he is when I spank him with it. I make him confess his love of cock, cum, boys, trannies, and call him names like sissy, fag, boy-lover, slut, cum-slut, boy-whore, and gay. I love to make him say, "Oh yes I'm a slut! I'm a slut!" as I paddle him over and over. I start out spanking with lighter, shorter slaps that come every so often on his ass. After a bit of a warm up, I'll lube up my free hand and start to jack off his cock while continuing random spanks. Sometimes I'll spank in the same spot over and over, bringing it to a bright red color. Sometimes I'll alternate back and forth pretty quickly to make him wonder how much longer and harder the spanks will go.

His cum spot from one night of spanking

I love to smack him very hard with this paddle. It makes such a loud, satisfying SMACK against his ass and his whole body tries to twitch away. When he's close to orgasm, he begs for "harder, faster, don't stop!!" and its during these moments I can't spank him fast enough. I'm also jacking off his dick hard and fast. In the few times I've dedicated an evening to truly spanking my naughty gay boyfriend, I really smack him hard with this so he is bruised the next day. His orgasms are always strong and covering the bed in a great bit of cum.

The Judgement
Overall, I give this toy a 4/5. It's great for spanking and we love to use it. However, it doesn't leave the impression of the word SLUT which was a hope and a key selling point in this item. If the word did show up, it would have been a 5/5. This is definitely well made and worth the investment if you're wanting to give spanking a try - or just need an alternative to your hand.

Review: the Hitachi Magic Wand vibrator

The Toy
For months and months I have been craving and lusting after the Hitachi magic wand. And why not? It's a powerhouse vibrator; and I do love a good vibrator. The comments I see from women on twitter and some pictures I've seen on tumblr made the need all the more acute. I NEEDED to try out this toy. I accumulated a few Amazon gift cards and purchased it as a gift for myself... and the boyfriend, really. As always, its a toy I planned on using on both of us. What fun is a toy that has a single use? We can always find a way to use it on both of us.

It arrived while I was at work and I opened it at once. It was a bit heavier than I expected. I cleaned it off with an antibacterial wipe; since it is an electric item, I did not want to use any water on it. The head of the toy is made of vinyl that has a slightly textured surface, not smooth as I anticipated. The head is attached to the long handle with a narrow attachment that does have some slight flex to it. The handle is long with a button that has a low/high setting. The weight of this item allows it to have a good pressure against my body, but holding it for periods of time longer than 10 minutes really makes my hands and arms tired. The cord is long enough to plug in next to my bed and use in the center of my king-sized mattress.

There are many attachments for this toy, but I do not (yet) own any.

The Sex (for her)
It's hard NOT to orgasm quickly with this item. When I first turned this on low, I was shocked how strong the vibrations were - I could feel them not in my clit but my pussy lips, my mons veneris, my vagina, and throughout my pelvis. They were so strong that I could not isolate my clitoral sensation over the pleasure that was spreading over pussy. This was a very new experience for me; I'm not used to being overwhelmed like this. It took a minute or two to adjust myself to it. I didn't need a lot of pressure to feel my orgasm building - everywhere (although that certainly felt so good if I did do that). It was only a couple of minutes before my orgasm hit.

I'm not used to an orgasm coming from my whole pussy; not just a "clit orgasm" or "g-spot orgasm" or "vaginal orgasm." It wasn't either one but a kind of blend of the three, I think. It was intense. The boyfriend was shocked at how fast it happened. I took the Hitachi off of me for a few seconds to recover, but I wanted more.

Back onto my pussy, this time spreading my pussy lips wide so the Hitachi could directly touch my clit. The problem was - the head of this vibrator is so big that while it touches my clit, it is still touching so many other parts of me! The power and stimulation on my clit was a strong, rumbly vibration. There was no end to the strength of the vibrations; it felt like the vibrations ran through my pussy in neverending waves of pleasure. The overpowering feeling was almost too much, and yet not enough. My pussy was confused at how intense it all was.

I switched it onto high, and let it rest against my clit again. It felt easily three times more powerful than the low setting and made me practically scream out. I moved it around my pussy, holding it just outside my vagina. I could feel the vibes running up my vagina several inches; it was a wonderful feeling. Eventually my second orgasm did come, and boy was it a good one.

Another time, I started playing with the Hitachi, and the boyfriend was jacking off. I came once, quickly, and wanted dick in me. Now. So he got on top and pinned the Hitachi between us. His thrusting kept it on my clit, and the force of his fucking pushed me me over the edge again so quickly. He could feel the vibrations in his penis through his pelvis. Having him push it into me made the clit vibrations very noticeable while his dick stimulated my vagina. I had three orgasms and from the second one until he was done I was screaming and unable to control my body! It was very satisfying; I considered myself well fucked for the day... so much so, that I didn't want sex later that night.

The Sex (for him)
I've used this vibrator on him a couple of times. I tried using this on his cock, but the vibrations didn't do anything for him. I also used it on his balls and while it felt good, that's about the extent of his pleasure. It isn't an orgasm aid that way.

However, how it does feel good for him as an anal stimulation device. I've used this two ways. First, while plugged, I put the Hitachi on the base of the butt plug and let the vibrations travel through his ass. I alternated this with jacking off his dick and spanking him. The Hitachi was pleasurable, but not earth-shattering.

The other time I used this was the Hitachi itself up against his bare asshole as he jacked himself off. I started on low, and the strength of the vibrations surprised him; he couldn't believe it was low. He could feel the rumble of the vibes spreading up to his prostate just on low; I flipped it onto high once I saw his orgasm was getting closer; he loved the vibrations spreading through his ass. He came spurting extra hard.

The Judgement
Overall, I'd give this toy a 3/5. While this toy is excellent for masturbation and a quick orgasm, it can easily overpower you and, for me, make it harder to cum. The vibrations almost make my pussy go numb if I use it too long. Being numb from vibrations makes it really hard to orgasm. I've heard of buying a dimmer switch which can help me control the vibrations and really improve my experience.

I'd also like to get some of the attachments for targeted G-spot stimulation. That is really where I think this toy will shine.

TMI Tuesday: The most times

We want to know what things you've done the most times.

1. What sex position have you been in the most times? 

Easy for both of us: Missionary. I personally love this position.

If it's boring, you're doing it wrong!

 It's poorly named (a sign of our Western sexual repression and the influence of Christianity on sex... OK, I'll stop myself from going on a diatribe here) and is considered the "default" or "most common" position. For me, its the most intimate position and has so much variety for this "one" position. My boyfriend is SO good at making this position so good in so many ways... traditional man-fully-on-woman  or him in a plank position above me or kneeling and bending or just kneeling... so much variety for this one way.

2. What book have you read...?

In large, friendly letters, no less.

This is a tough one for me. I think there are three possibilities and they are: The Hitchiker's Guide to the Galaxy by Douglas Adams, Star Wars: The Last Command by Timothy Zahn, and Persuasion  by Jane Austen. Science fiction and classic literature.

3. What move have you watched....?
I think it might be the five-hour BBC version of Pride and Prejudice starring my very favorite Colin Firth. Yum.

The BF's movie is Nick Foley's Greatest Hits and Misses. He likes wrestling. I don't get it.

4. In the last week, who have you texted...?

 No contest, its each other. We text frequently... more than frequently. Pretty much all day when we can.

5. In the last week, what food have you eaten...?

For me, it's cheese. I love cheese. I could do away with dairy forever if cheese were somehow dairy-free. (And no, dairy-free cheese is not an option!)

For him, it's ice cream. He goes through a ton of ice cream!

6. Today, which website have you visited...?

Sadly, for me, it's facebook. I'm on facebook all day as part of my job, and I normally can't help checking on my feed and commenting on people's lives.

For him, it was twitter. He doesn't browse the internet much.

7. When dining out, where have you eaten...?

For me, I would guess Taco Bell. It was the fast food of choice growing up and is still a favorite of mine today (questionable beef and all).

For him, it's a chain called Garfield's... I've never been, and upon writing this I've discovered we live within a reasonable distance of one. Perhaps we need to go sometime.

8. Which sex toy have you used...?

Easy. My bullet vibe! It's seriously one of the best inventions out there! I always cum very hard with it. It's the default if I need/want to cum after we've finished oral/penetration sex, or if I'm having a hard time having an orgasm due to fatigue.

We debated over the answer for the BF. We think the answer is the Siren dildo that we use most of the time to fuck him with. Or he fucks himself with it.

Bonus:  Is there something you’d love to go back and relive in your sexual past?
My first reaction is to say no, not really. I certainly have nothing I want to relive prior to the boyfriend (actually, if I would, then it would be to stand up for myself and declare I am not broken because I smell like a woman does "down there"!). But then I really started to think about this, and the one experience I'd love to relive is the sweetest, most beautiful sex we've ever shared. But that doesn't happen often, and it shouldn't. That's what makes it so special.

The boyfriend, he really misses giving head to a guy. (This answer took less than a second to answer from him).

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He tied me up, and blindfolded me

I was nervous and excited. We had talked about tying me up. We'd bought the restraints more than a month ago during our date night. Only last night we had used them on him; now it was my turn.

He secured my wrists and then my feet. Then he took one of my silk scarves and blindfolded me with it. The room was cold. He went to make his preparations; selecting his toys, cleaning them, preparing them so I couldn't see what was in store for me. I asked for a blanket to keep warm while I waited. I was denied.

He left the room and I asked where he was going. He didn't answer, but I could hear the clink of ice into a glass. I started to fret nervously. It was too cold for ice. I asked him to reconsider the ice; save it for a warmer night. Again, I was denied.

He continued preparations. I squirmed. My wrist restraints felt tight. Too tight. Internally I started to panic. I have this "thing" about feeling trapped. It's why I can't fall asleep as the little spoon sometimes; I feel like I can't move. I start to panic. And last night, I started panicking. I tried to loosen the restrains, but how could I? I called out to him. It was too scary, I needed them looser. At first he said no, but the rising panic in my voice came through. He loosened them and I relaxed a bit more.

And then he started. Silk gloves touched my skin, lightly. His hands ran all over my body. The silk against my hard nipples felt so smooth, so soft. It was unlike anything that had softly grazed my nipple. His hands wandered down my body to my legs and feet. Occasionally he would brush up against my pelvic bush and my body would tense. It tickled yet was so pleasurable.

He told me to open my mouth. I did so obediently without hesitation. He lifted my head up slightly and put the head of his dick in my mouth. I start sucking it immediately, just focusing on his head while he called me a good girl for being such a cock sucker. I sucked until he let my head rest back onto the bed (only a minute or two) and then waited for more.

And then there was an ice cube on my nipple. So cold, and so wet! It made me gasp and try to move away, but I could not. Then it was on the other one, and I flinched the other direction. He chuckled at my struggle. It left my body, but the cold remained a bit. Then a light stroke of cold ice on my stomach. My breast. My leg. My hip. It would appear at random spots on my body; I did not know what to do!

He made me spread my legs as far as my restraints would allow. His fingers pulled apart my pussy lips and found my clit. The ice was so cold and dripping cold water droplets onto my pussy; but on my clit it was cold and hard. So hard that after the initial shock, it was incredibly arousing. But too soon he took it away. It glanced across my skin randomly before returning to my clit and melting there.

He got up from the bed and left me there, quivering with excitement and chill. When he came back, I heard lube being squeezed from a bottle. Then, a finger touching my asshole, and once locating it, our small pink dildo sliding smoothly in. It's been a long time since I've had anything in my ass... it felt full without being too full.  He fucked me with the dildo a few times. I gasped in pleasure.

He inspected my clit. It wasn't hard like it had been from the ice; so he pulled my pussy lips wide and spanked my clit. My whole body flinched! I tried to move away and to hide myself from him; I could not move away. He persisted in spanking me until I was hard enough for him. Then, cool glass entered my pussy. 

I definitely felt full. Slowly he started fucking me with it, then letting it rest in my vagina as he fucked my ass again. Then back to the glass. Then, my favorite bullet vibe lightly resting on my pussy lips just above my clit. He turned it on and let it sit there sending vibes through my pussy while he went back to fucking my ass again.

He rotated between moving or adjusting two of the three at each time while I reacted with flinching and moaning when I needed to. He started to focus on my clit with the vibe and the G-spot more. I told him to fuck me more with the dildo, yes right there, right there, harder, oh yes baby, oh yes, keep going, just like that, oh it's so good, I love it, please keep going, oh fuck don't stop. I had a G-spot orgasm. Then the intensity picked up and I felt that "Oh I have to pee!" like I had never felt before. I really thought I was close to squirting; I was certainly closer than I'd ever been before. I tried to pee, relax, let it go, but it didn't happen.

I did have another orgasm, this time a combo of G-spot and clit. he started playing with the rhythm on the bullet vibe. as I came he didn't stop playing with me. His tongue played with my clit for a bit; I moaned and screamed in pleasure. It was a complete surprise but another orgasm hit me.

More fucking with the glass dildo; he turned the vibrator up. He fucked me and kept the bullet on my clit so directly. He let the pullet rest on my clit while my pussy flexed against the dildo in me. It didn't take long for me to orgasm again.

All of a sudden, my blindfold was gone. He was kneeling over me leaning against the wall, staring down at me. His hand was jacking off his dick. But I couldn't focus on him. Instead, another orgasm was hitting me. My eyes shut in intense pleasure, when I opened he was intently staring, watching me writhe in pleasure. And another orgasm. They were growing more intense with each one. The bullet vibe remained, almost glued to my clit it seemed, while the glass dildo was unmoving in my pussy. My movements from orgasm only triggered more as my body moved the dildo slightly around my very sensitive vagina.

He watched me cum over and over, crying louder and louder. Really, truly struggling for relief. He jacked off over me, watching me unable to be still on the bed. Sweet torture. The orgasms wouldn't stop. I looked him in the eyes when I could open them, almost pleading for relief but the orgasms were too exquisite.

After something like 10 very hard orgasms in a row, he turned off the vibrator and pulled out the dildo - slowly. It took minutes for my body to calm down and stop twitching. He stood over me, jacking off and watching my face as the aftershocks waned. I whimpered my thanks and my helplessness. I was still bound and I wanted to be held by him. He wouldn't let me go until he had been satisfied.

I told him to jack off into my mouth so I could eat his cum. He knelt down and we shared minutes of looking in each other's eyes as he came closer to orgasm. When he came, I caught most of his load in my mouth and swallowed it happily.

He let me out of my restraints and it felt good to curl up into a ball on my side. He helped me up to get a drink and use the bathroom, and then held me in his arms as I fell almost instantly asleep.

He told me the next day the only reason he stopped the vibrator was my volume was beyond anything I'd screamed before and he was legitimately concerned the police would be called. If/when we get a house, I'm in major trouble.

Date night our way, pt 1

We decided to go out and have an actual date night. It had been several weeks since we've actually gone out to dinner and enjoyed our time together. It was a much needed break. First, a quick review of the day: Wake up. Cuddle. Sex. Cuddle. Video games. Movie on the couch. Video games. A typical Saturday for us, actually.

So we headed out to dinner to our favorite restaurant - Chili's. It was the place of our first "date" (I'm putting that in quotes because it happened after we met online and then slept together after our first meeting, detailed in a 2-part entry here and here). The first time we ate there, we were both so shy and nervous. Conversation was difficult and and our shy natures made it a quiet meal. (The irony of the first "date" being awkward even after all the talking and skyping and in-person sex we'd had is not lost on us!)

Dinner was fun. We were seated in a far, empty corner of the restaurant away from the crowds which I appreciated. Eventually another couple was sat in our section, but it remained quiet. We laughed and giggled and had a great time just enjoying each other's company.

After dinner, I remembered I had a Groupon to a local sex toy store. We decided to head there next. We wandered and wandered, unsure what to get. I found out they have a very nice selection of all things lingerie - shoes, gloves, stockings, bras, panties, oh my! What I was disappointed to find is they stock of lot of jelly toys and most of their lube contains glycerin - a big no no for us. We checked out their video section - they rent and sell. I've never rented an adult DVD before, maybe we'll go back and try some DVDs out. (Like the gay stud one the BF pointed at and grinned).

We made our purchases and headed home. We had lingered a long time in the store, but how could we not? We got home and hopped onto our computers - more video gaming was needed! Finally, around 1am or so we decided it was time to log off and head to the bedroom for our fun.

First, we showered together. Then, we got ready for bed and I prepped one of new purchases for us: a Spartacus leather riding crop. We gave each other some trial smacks with it, and we both liked the sensation. It had a nice snap to it; not too sharp where it stung but enough of a whip to actually enjoy it. I knew it had exciting prospects for me - I can't take him spanking me, but perhaps I could take a spanking from this!

His turn first. We had talked earlier in the day that it had been much too long (like two weeks) since I had given him a proper spanking. That talk had inspired the purchase of the crop. I had him assume the position we normally take for this: on his hands and knees, ass in the air and head on the bed. I sat around him at the back, one leg straight out toward his face, the other around his legs. I had easy access to his ass and dick now.

I gave him some preliminary spanks, testing the range and feel of the crop. It was long, but I liked the movement it required of me. The swoosh in the air made a very slight sound. Yes, this was going to be very fun...

To be continued.